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writes:I met my girlfriend 3 years ago, I fell in love with her and made a bond. I live with her away from my own family, in the 2 years of dating we had our troubles in the relationship. She met this guy on facebook who dated my couise.He told my couise sister ( my other couise) he would take care of her from now on...I kinda felt he was up to no good. He met my girlfriend behinde my back without me knowing in town. I picked her up late at night. He told me she was his and tried to kiss her in front of my face, I got into his face and ask him what do you think you doing as he just smiled, then he told me to get lost (F**** off) she been cheating on you for a few weeks. I was gutter and heart broken. my girlfriend told me it was untrue. then few days later she left me and went with him. He made my life hell by text messagers playing up like a baby. I had break downs and went under doctors for help, I was a wreck and messed up because what he as done to my relationship. Me and my girlfriend recently got back together, but he still contacting her, and I am feeling unwanted by her, she told me now she is messed up in the head because the things he did to her. I am scar'd and bitter by the past. But I still love my girlfriend...I don't know what to do to make things better between us ????
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2012): Let your girlfrirend go. She has no respect for you and and does not care about your feelings. If she was really a true girlfriend she would not have left with this other guy. Why did you take her back? She still in contact with this guy. This relationship os doomed and your sanity is at risk. I would run for hills
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reader, Jellybean1726  +, writes (27 November 2012):
This is an awful thing to go through but I notice how you put no blame on her it's all on him. She played a big role in this, she couldve prevented it from happening but you chose to forgive her, the hardest thing about forgiving someone is letting it go. But you should do some soul searching for yourself and try to find the forgiveness for you. Forgiving means letting go of all the hurt and pain. It doesnt mean what happened to you was ok or that the person who hurt you should be allowed in your life it simply means letting go of your pain and moving forward for yourself. You sound like a great guy and in my opinion you deserve better but if you want to try to work it out couples counselling would be your best bet. It's not an easy thing to get over the lack of security that she won't leave you again or the trust that was broken. When you find your special person you will know it and I wish you the best of luck I hope you find it soon!
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