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writes:Hi everyone. I have problem with one girl, I dont know if she is mad on me because of something, but she's now not answering on my messages, we the most of the time. She is not answering when Im not in town where she lives. Everything starts about 2 months ago when we met in dorm - house for students. She was with her friend, and all 3 went in town for a drink. We came back, she gave me a hug . The next day, we were hanging all the time together, talking, playing cards, watching movies... Her friend sometimes leave the room, cause she saw that I like her friend. So we had a nice time, I also gave her massage couple times, which was for me a little bit confusing cause we met like 3 days ago and now Im giving her massage with body milk cream. Usually after massage we were in here bed, and she from me to cuddle her. Which i did ofcourse. In those moments I really wanted to tell that I like her and that I want to be more than friend with here, but I never sad that. :( I was afraid how would she react and Idk. Few days after she got a job in some barroom place, just acros the dorm. After that, she starts very rare to talk to me, to answer on messages, and we didnt c each other sometimes, even if we were very close. One day I asked her why she didnt answer on my message, she sad: What message, I didnt get anything. Few days later Im sending her a message again, and still no answer. So Im not in dorm any more, and I have to back in my born city, which is 40 minutes far from here. Than I was truing to not call her and send her any message for few days, just to see if she will try to contact me. 4 days after she is calling. I was like woooow, no way! I pick up the phone, and she sad : Heeeey, wazz up with u? Where r u now? U forgot me or what? On that day I was already on the way to her town, actually I was talking with her on cellphone while I was on the bus. She didnt know that Im comming. I wanted to suprised her. But when I came there in the room, it was a lot of other people there, and I could not to talk with her about why she ignoring me. So next day or something like that I send her a message: R u sleeping? cause she was working all night, but I didnt get answer at all. I decided to try to stop thinking about her, but it was impossible, I cant sleep during the night, if I sleep, than I sleep very little time, cause I miss her and thinking of the days we spent together before she starts working. Also once I was at that bar where she works and when I came there, she huged me soo hard when she saw me. In that moment I wished that moment never ends. I was with 2 friends, and She supposed to give me a key from her room to sleep when she finnished the job (cause I didnt have right to be in dorm anymore) and after job she suppoused to go in some night club with a friends (she didnt invited me ofcourse) and after that she suppoused to go in her home town for a weekend. So she finnished with job, and went in club. I was trying to call her, she reject the call, I called her again later, she did the same. And I just wanted to ask her for a key. Next day, i was talking with her friend from room about her, why is she mad on me. But she said that she dont know, and think that she is not mad. Few minutes later, her phone starts ringing. It was her. They were talking, I was just sitting for a few moments, and when she mentioned, that Im here, I asked here to talk we here, she gave me the phone, and I asked her what happend last night, u sad that u will give me the keys keys from room, I was calling u and u reject the call? She sad I know, I forgot to give u keys, and I was so drunk last night and high, so I droped a phone few times. That was what she said to me. 1 day later I was back to my city again, just to try to remove her from my head. But it wasnt worked. I was 15 days in my city, and we didnt write or talk. So after 15th day, I came to that town again, I was standing with a friend at the entry of dorm, and few minutes later, there is she. She saw me and came, huged me and said: Hey where r u these days? OMG I didnt c u for a long time? Come later, I will be at bar place. I didnt came ofcourse, cause I wanted to talk to her when she is not working and when she is alone. I sent her a message next day to come in one room, in where we have some mutural friends( ofcourse, they weren't there), and she said: Ok just to dry my hair. Half our later she came with a guy ( our mutural friend) and she was dressed like for a night club. I aksed her: R u going in town? She said: Im going to meet up with one friend to get some files for school, and after that in town. After few hours, I and that mutural friend, we went in bed to sleep, and she was knocking on door. She was back from town parties. She was little bit drunk and she was starting to dance in the room, sing loud, and she gets in my bad for a few moments. I didint do anything. She gets up, continuous dancing and singing, and after a while she left in her room. Next day I called her and ask her where is she? She said that she is market, buying some food, and that she will call me when she get back. She came back but after 1 and a half hour ( so I had 20 minutes left, before I go for a bus, to get back home), but she wasnt alone, she was with that mutural friend. She came, she didnt spoke to me a word, she was speaking something with him. Few minutes later They went to another room to friend of mine to talk about drink promotions for that night, and they left me alone in room without a word. After they left the room, I took my stuffes and went to a bus station. I didnt told here that Im going home. That was yesterday. Today I sent here a message 10 hours ago, and asked her how was promotion yesterday, and ofcourse I didnt get respond. I dont know what to do? I really like her, and thinking of here every second. But also I dont know why is she ignoring me, and why she act like that?? Im thinking about maybe I did something wrong, but I dont remember that I ever hurt her. Oh and here friend( the girl who sometimes left the room, so that we can be alone) she knows that I like her, I told her. And I also told here to not tell her that, even if they r best friends. But I kind have a felling that she told her that. Any advice what should I do? If would be a way easier for me to tell her how I feel if we would on the same level as we were on the begining. But Im kind of getting impression that she don't want to even hang out with me. I mean it seems like she changes a lot when she starts working. Anyone knows what I did wrong, except maybe that I supposed to talk with her while we were on friend level? I will back in friday for one or two days in that town, cause I have classes only on friday and saturday. What should I do? How to react? How to react the next time I c here? Should I write her even if she doesnt respond? Should I call her? And if yes than what would I say to here? Appreciate any advice. Thnx. [Mod note: paragraph breaks inserted to improve readability.]
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reader, exea +, writes (28 November 2012):
exea is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thnx for answers. But what if I was made mistake somewhere, and thats the reason why she act like that??
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reader, exea +, writes (28 November 2012):
exea is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhat if I was made mistake somewhere, and thats the reason why she act like that??
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reader, abcdef123456  +, writes (27 November 2012):
You should try your hardest to forget about her. She is messing you around and (I think) playing hard to get. I know It's hard when you constantly think about someone but I personally feel that if she is not willing to spend the time to contact you even when you address her about it then you probably deserve better. At the end of the day, she clearly does not feel the exact same way about you or she would be contacting you if you were constantly on her mind- if that makes sense?!
If you really are that bothered about her, it sounds like she needs to be the one to chase you. Try not to look too eager or desperate. Be casual in your approach to her or you'll scare her away.
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