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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now, but a few months ago we got into a really big argument over really small issues and he pulled me off the bed and threw me onto the floor, I was really shook up and didn't want to talk to him so he started pushing me and shoving me; afterwards he apologised but it happened again about a month later. He used to get really angry about small things and punch holes into walls and hes broken phone as well.. I went on holidays with him and his family about 6 months ago and I saw him hit his mother in the side of the head while she was driving because she didn't want to stop at the shops, it was a bit scary but i didn't think that he would ever hit me..I tried to break up with him a few weeks ago because he realy scared me again, I dont feel safe with him.. but he wouldn't let me leave his room and I finally broke down and forgave him again.But I thought maybe after I almost broke up with him he would see the light or something and stop being like that, i had told him that he scares me.. But yesterday we got into a really big fight over another stupid little thing and he started saying really nasty stuff to me and called me an idiot and a moron and a bitch and telling me that no one else cares about me except him and he spat at me so i slapped him and he hit me back and threw me onto the floor and I tried to leave and he wouldn't let me get to the door and kept throwing me back and saying more shit to me.. It went on for an hour and I was so scared and he apologised again.. I have a feeling that its just going to keep happening.. I really love being around him when hes not like this and it breaks my heart to loose him but I don't know what to do, I'm scared to stay with him... please help me...
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2009): oh come on, does he need to put you in hospital before you'll wake up and leave him? You must know his apologies mean jack shit. What are you getting out of this relationship apart from bruises?
Call the police if he does anything again. Have him arrested, show him up a little. You've got to find your strength and show this guy you're not to be walked over or you're going to spend the rest of your life living this way. I know it's difficult, but sadly, most of us have been there at some point.
I mean, what kind of disgusting 'man' hits the woman that gave birth to him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2009): Love does not exsist in this relationship unless your saying he loves to be violent. Get away from this guy quick, that is someone you dont want to love. If he hits his mom, I don't care want she did to him; something is wrong with this guy. Dont wait til it gets worse and he starts throwing grease on you or worse you be one of those girls who got lit on fire. Leave please
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2009): You have to understand that his hitting people -- you, his mother, whoever -- is not acceptable. Not even once. And that his apologising doesn't make it right, and does not mean it won't happen again. You are right to be afraid of staying with him. You *must* leave him, and never, ever have anything to do with him again. He will never change -- in fact, he will get worse, and one day he may kill you. You must leave him.
Do whatever it takes to get away from him forever. Talk to the police and get a restraining order. Tell you parents everything that has happened, and get them to help keep him away from you. Leave him as soon as possible.
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