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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I don't know what to do... I'm not sure how I feel about my boyfriend any more.We have been together 7 months and get along great. I love spending time with him but recently a lot of things have begun to annoy me.His confidence is one, dont get me wrong, I like confidence in a guy, but with me being well... not shy, but average, its quite overwhelming, especially when we go out with my friends and he talks more to them than I do... I can't get a word in.I also get annoyed when he tells me long stories because of the way he tells them - I know that sounds so stupid of me and pathetic, but it's just these little things that are starting to get to me.We don't argue much and when we do we sort it out quickly, but recently I haven't felt the spark that I used to get. I still look at him and think to myself how sexy he is and when I really think about my life I think about how much I love him and want to stay with him for a long time, but then other times I feel like I don't really love him any more and I'm scared of losing him because I don't want to be alone... When I say "I love you" in texts etc, sometimes I feel I'm just saying it for the sake of it, rather than really wanting to let him know that I love him.I don't know what to do or how to sort out my feelings? I don't want to hurt him whatever the outcome, I'm so confused :S
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2009): It seems to me the best thing for you to do is to have some time apart for a while, maybe a couple of weeks and see how you feel. You're bound to have some irritations with each other, thats just normal, but if they are really getting to you, then it could mean that you're just not right for each other, especially as you are so young.
If you've got a stage where his stories annoy you, then you definately need a break from him for a while. I understand you get the feeling you dont want to be alone, and Im sure you won't, is not like your 40 years old! But as an older person giving you advice, its a quite simple situation - he's getting on your nerves because perhaps you are spending too much time together. And lastly, don't write I love you at the end of your messages! Just say it in person when you feel like it, otherwise it will of course cease to really mean anything. Good luck!
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