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writes:I'm a 19 year old male. I have come to the conclusion, that I am a disease. No matter where I look, I can't get a girl. What the hell, I am really starting to get sick of this. I have tried everything. I have been using online dating sites called myyearbook and okcupid, but no, everyone ignores me. Why? I don't get it, I message people and they ignore me. We have the same interests and I get ignored. It makes no logical sense, accept for the fact that there must be a force that pushes love away from me. I guess I will have to live with this disease the rest of my life and be alone forever, and I don't even know why. I have no friends who want to do anything, so I don't know what to do, I don't know where to meet girls by myself (since my friends don't want to get off video games) so I rely on these dating sites. I'm not a video game I: Hike, Climb rocks, Mountaineer, telescope, etc. Is it true that I'm just some disease that will never feel love because I have no idea why? I'm sick of being single, and I will not accept the advice of, "just wait" Because waiting is what got me into this god awful problem. I hate being alone and am willing to get a mail order bride, if i have too. Don't say I'm young because a lot of guys have dated at my age. Also, I have read, join Clubs. Well there is nothing around my town with clubs people my age. I don't know what to do
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2012): Well okay guys always talk to me wen I'm at stores even grocery shopping so anywhere you can find a girl your not old enough for a bar so no luck there maybe meet someone on a differebt site sometimes on thoses sites it takes a while tho and you can write thembut you said you weren't getting anything back why tho what did u put on your profile I don't really know what to tell u but maybe try to look for posting oat grocery stores or ads and find a concert and drag on of your zombie friends out lol I don't no where you live but keep looking don't give up
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2012): I once felt like you do now.I'll tell you a secret: no one wants to hang around with or date someone as cynical, depressed, and almost-crazed as your question makes you out to be. You are so unable to communicate with others on the same emotional level, and yet very desperate to do so. Your negativity is a cry for help. People are not patterns, it isn't 'you' or 'them', there is more than just black and white, and besides, disease spreads (you haven't...hence the question).The disease is negativity. You have it, others don't want it, so you are isolated. The cure comes after you change your way of thinking. You have to become a *more positive person. Begin by forcing yourself to describe things positively (using a positive tone) when you write. (i could have described you as becoming a '*less negative' person, however, 'more positive is well...more positive.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (7 May 2012):
 Your not a disease, dozens of people have this problem!
You should thank your lucky stars they ignore you, who would want to date anyone who behaves like that?
You will not be alone forever.
My guess is that the people who you msg for dates etc are naturally not drawn to you because of this energy which can read like "desparation", this puts people off.
Dating sites are not the only places to meet people; go out (even alone) and take a risk. Go to another town/place if you have too, what have you got to lose.
If you hate being alone and you hate your own company what makes you think another person will enjoy it?
and even if you get a mail order bride there is always a risk she will leave you (as its may not be for love) so then where will you be left with? alone, by yourself.
My advice would be stop calling yourself a disease, appreciate the good in you, go out meet people even if its by yoursel, enjoy your single time, life's too short!
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