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writes:I've been friends with this guy for about two months, I've liked him a lot since I met him but I refused to say anything as he has a girlfriend. We've been flirting a lot and the other day he told me that he also likes me, I also told him that I liked him but he has a girlfriend so nothing can happen. He asked me to kiss him which I'm almost ashamed to say that I did, then left. After he sent me a text saying that he was sorry if he made everything weird between us but he couldn't hide how he felt and he didn't want to jepordise our friendship but had to tell me. I replied that it hadn't made anything weird and that we could still be friends. Since then we've spent a lot of time together revising for exams and talking getting to know each other better. I've made it clear where I stand with the fact he has a girlfriend.He's told me that things haven't been going well with his girlfriend and that he's just trying to find a way to break up with her without hurting her too badly and that he doesn't want to mess me about.I've asked my friends what I should do and they say to stay clear of him as he's either using me as a replacement for his girlfriend who's at a different university, or that I can't trust him as he's cheating on her and could do that to me in the future. I understand what they're getting at but he has been nothing but honest with me since I met him and I trust him. I feel really wrong and guilty about him having a girlfriend, but I don't know what to do as I don't want to push him away. How should I handle this????
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): Hey guys just here to tell how this has been resolved.He dumped his girlfriend last month and we've been dating, last week we officially became a proper couple xxx :D
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reader, X-Chlo-X +, writes (20 May 2009):
 You could think of it as he likes you more than his girlfriend not using you , I have the same problem with a boy I like ,just think about what he means to you , and wether it's worth going out with him x good luck anyway
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (20 May 2009):
You sound like a genuine person whos in this puely for the love, untill he sorts things with his gf i.e dumps her then i would stay clear, at least that way you know he was honest with you. Dont get involved playing this game, you end up hurt the most. Your already in deep so he needs to make a descion, its unfair to you both that he keeps this hanging on, im sorry but if he meant it all he would of left her by now and would be with you. You shouldnt feel guilty, ok it was wrong to kiss him you know that but it takes two and he was the one doing the majority of the pushing and hes the one in a relationship.If hes like this with you imagine how it could be if you were his gf and he was telling some other girl the same thing?
Its hard to trust and build a relationship if its based in lies from the start, thr truth always comes out eventually.
Personally i see him as a player but i may be biased from things ive witnessed in the past and what mates have been through etc. i can tell you feel a lot for him though, if he felt the same youd be together by now, too many questions and i dont beileve hes giving you the true answers, more like what he wants you to hear, dont play to his tune. i feel you deserve a lot better than what hes giving you, never be somebodys second best, it hurts constantly and you never have really experiance there love. Dont let yourself get hurt by the truth you know is there, has been all along
i really hope you find both the truth and happiness you deserve, best of luck xxx
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