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*my xoxo
writes:I am a 22 (nearly 23) yr old British female and I am very confused right now.... I have been meeting up with a Turkish 20 yr old male who lives in the same town as me for nearly 2 weeks. I know he does not require money as his family are in the food/takeaway trade and they make a good profit. Although we have been intimate already he tells me that it is not just about that and he says he just likes cuddling etc sometimes so i dont think he is just wanting sex. (He also told me that he was a virgin before he met me and i think he is telling the truth). I have a 3 yr old son and he knows this and it has not scared him off and he is not muslim so i am not worried about religious differences. However,i am aware that Turkish men are believed to be controlling,possessive and very protective and he has shown this already. He has also asked me to stop smoking,not drink a lot of alcohol and not to dress provocatively which i have done for him and he says it is good. It can be quite difficult to see him as he is always working until the early hours of the morning or studying and this is becoming frustrating for me. Due to slight language barriers it can be hard to understand each other sometimes but he keeps telling me he thinks I am "confused" about him and I don't really know why he thinks this as i have told him i like him very much although he has not mentioned a relationship yet.... I am very puzzled as i do like him so much but i dont know if this is genuine behaviour for a Turkish man or if it means things will become serious between us or not. Please help as this is becoming very upsetting and difficult for me......
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reader, Amy xoxo +, writes (4 July 2010):
Amy xoxo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the answers guys,i am willing to do things for him to a certain extent but i'm still confused as to whether this is the behaviour of a man who is genuine? i'm so worried that i will end up really hurt and used.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2010): Arab men and Indian/Pakistani men can be controlling...not to be stereotypical I'm Indian (born and raised in the US). One girl left me in college because I was demanding/controlling. We're like that. However, I've changed. But if he's an immigrant, it may be hard for him to change. Just to let you know. Figure it out....if you're cool with his behavior, then go for him. If not, find somebody else.
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