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writes:Howdy everyone, 6 years ago I met someone who has consistently shown herself to be the most amazing human being to walk this earth. I love her, and all I want is for her to be happy. I am not pursuing her. I'm lost now though, I don't know what my destination should be when I've found it impossible to find romantic attachment to any other human being. I don't know where I'm going and I feel like I'm constantly on watch for conflict, but I'm without a meaningful goal. I'm hoping that somebody here will understand what this is like, and will have the answer I somehow missed. Where do I go from here? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sir-T  +, writes (11 June 2010):
One of the many things that puts people in your kind of situation is pornography. Many people argue that it has no effect but it actually does.Now you certainly do not sound like someone who is not attracted to women but someone who has no feelings to get attached; in other words, your sub-conscious mind would happily process being a FWB than a partner.If this is your case, am afraid you will have to give porn up cos its messing with ur mind and hormones and give yourself time to heal. it wont be easy but certainly worth it. But that is if this is ur situation.
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reader, Kama  +, writes (10 June 2010):
 If you've given up pursuing this person, your next destination might be to find a bigger pool of people to experience. I've never been good at the single game, but I know there are a lot of ways to play it. I say get into contact with a larger group. I have loved two women in my life very intensely, but I know there are more potential loves that I am giving up (I'm married). I'm OK with that. But there are 6 billion people on this earth; go find another person to chase. I hope that helps somehow!
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