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I don't know what love is

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Question - (12 March 2022) 3 Answers - (Newest, 17 March 2022)
A age 18-21, anonymous writes:

I had a relationship with my ex for nine months and i cringe whenever he says he love me and ask me did i love him.

i feel wierd with kissing him since i was sexually assaulted when i was younger so i feel disgusted with the fact of kissing especially because of the saliva.

we never had sex because i am under 18 years though he ask question about my virginity.

i don't really know what love is and when i say i love you to him i feel i am playing with his feeling

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A female reader, !!anonyma!! United States +, writes (17 March 2022):

!!anonyma!! agony auntYou love your parents right? You can feel how much you care for them right? It is exactly the same as romantic love except you feel attracted to them too. And you just can't help but get butterflies when you see them. Tbh no one knows what love is we just know how we feel what love is. And if you don't feel anything that I mentioned above then no it is not love and you shouldn't date him anymore. And you should ask him to stop kissing him. I think no one can blame him because you didn't ask him not to kiss you did you? But that is not the point. When you don't know what love is you shouldn't play with people's feelings and wait for the right person who gives you butterflies and who you will really care about and feel attracted to. I hope you take the better decision.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2022):

I'm going to go out on a limb and add more. Your parents should be more responsible for you, and monitoring your comings and goings more closely. Otherwise, you wouldn't be alone with some boy pressuring you and making moves on you at only 13! Even if you're 15! They should be especially protective knowing you've been assaulted!!! You should be asking your own parents these questions.

Are you an orphan? Where are your parents??? Do you slip-out to be with boys when your parents aren't home, or think you're in your room? Something is off here! If you don't like kissing and stuff; then you shouldn't be alone with boys who do!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2022):

I suspect this boy is older than you. You don't know what love is yet; and neither does he.

You aren't ready for sex, and this guy is way too much for you right now. Boys use the word "love" to take advantage of your feelings for them. It's the quickest way to get a naive-girl on her back. Sweettalk her, and tell her what she likes to hear.

I think you need to get-away from this kid!

Trust me, you're not playing with his feelings; he thinks he's smarter than you; because you don't know what you're doing, and he's taking advantage of that. You are probably also hanging-out with him, without your parents permission.

If you've been sexually-assaulted, the last place you ought to be is alone with some boy who is probably pressuring you for sex.

Your parents let you date at 13??? Some won't allow their teens to date until they're 16, or older!

If you're a victim of sexual-assault, shouldn't your parents be more vigilant about your whereabouts and the boys you're with?

You're probably seeing him behind their backs! If that is the case, being sneaky makes you vulnerable to harm; if you find yourself alone with the wrong boy!!!

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