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writes:Hi.Just read the post with the 64 yr old lady asking if it was normal to be interested in sex with her younger 48 yr old jerk man and what he said.Now here is my question you might want to post out there with a little back ground on who I am .First off , I’m a retired 75 yr old male who believes in staying active and healthy. In that regard mindset it’s up to me and only me being single to stay healthy and in shape. So after I retired I decided to lose a few pounds setting a goal to get back to the same weight I was at age 18. So by focusing on a fun sport dailey exercise routine of playing pickle ball and swimming my two mile laps in the sports clubs heated pool I achieved my goal , losing 25 lbs back to 130 lbs . It took me about six months to lose the weight.Here are the plus points from that. 1. All my clothes fit , what ever I ware.2. I feel like the energizer bunny every day after my swim laps and shower.3. Sleep better every night and wake up with a firm erection every morning ( morning wood)4.Feel good all the time doing what ever I want to do at my age of 75.5. Watch what I eat , stay away from sugar , and junk foods. Don’t smoke or drink alcohol at all that’s bad for your health.So here is my question about looking for a needle in the hay stack partner. All the woman I meet , are opposites of my mindset being smokers , alcoholics , over weight , kids still living at home, health problems , have a honey dew repair list of house repairs for you to do , want you to take care of them and fix their problems.Seems like all the good woman are taken being married these days. So here’s a guy well to do , healthy , 5’7” tall , 130 lbs with a good libido , a lot to offer looking for a lady within ten years my age who is fit. Fit means FIT in SHAPE ! As an example here are just a few nice married woman I know.Peggy - 68 yrs old , had four kids , walks and swims laps , is 5’ tall , weight is 106 lbs looks great.Lora - 70 yrs old , three kids all grown away , walks , plays pickle ball and swims too. She is 5’ 6” tall weigh is 116-118 lbs and gets upset when she is at 118 as her goal ideal is 115 lbs.So where are all the woman that I find attractive that are divorced , widowed , etc ? Very far and few to be found!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2022): Understand that if you are sorted out with no problems you want a woman the same - not some boring person who needs you to make allowances for her all of the time, pay her bills or debts, make her decisions and so on. But in a year or two you might be needing someone who is kind, eager to allow for your failings and ill health. Where will she be?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2022): My post is long, but the other two contributors below make really good points. I hope you read theirs, if you don't read mine.
I also agree with "female reader, anonymous;" and I hope you've taken the time to read what "A reader anonymous, writes." The dear lady is right on target!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2022): "So where are all the woman that I find attractive that are divorced , widowed , etc ? Very far and few to be found!"
They're out there, but not everyone has the benefit of the best of health in their 70's! You put a lot of emphasis on appearance; so finding a woman in her older years fit as a fiddle, full of pep, and craving sex; might be a tall order to fill. While you're forgetting you're on the declining side of your manhood, age-wise and biologically. The average life-span of an American male is 76.2 years, as of 2021; and the average woman is 81.2 years. So any lucky female who invests her time and feelings in you, might be taking a gamble at best! She'll have to make the best of your hopeful 1.6 years left!
Consider yourself blessed, but also a bit conceited. You are probably rejecting many mature-women who don't fit your high standards; so keep looking, until you find someone who is as superficial as yourself. You're the great exception to the norm, only as far as physical health; but your attitude may be more typical than we should be comfortable with.
Men mature slower than women; though women are apt to live longer. Our metabolism burns calories faster; so we can drop weight faster than females. Males don't retain water-weight, and our hormone levels don't affect our overall health. God is not cruel. Nature balances and evens-out everything; because natural events can hit you with a debilitating disease indiscriminately, a stroke, heart-attack, or erectile-dysfunction (temporary or permanent) without warning. I'll take your comment about the "morning-wood" with a grain of salt, and some skepticism. The point is, will it fully rise to the occasion, when the situation calls for it? Can it go the distance, or go limp shortly after creating great anticipation and high expectations? There's no point to a boat having a mast, if it can't hold-up the sail!
You may want somebody by your side who will still want you when, or if, any of this could happen. She may not win the Miss Silver America pageant; but love and loyalty are the best things you could ever have in your twilight-years.
If you can't find what you're looking for, sometimes that is because they're looking for someone other than someone like you. They may like what they see, but they may tire of your boastfulness, and arrogance. Tone it down to humble-level; and those evasive silver beauties will come out of hiding. If you're a peacock around them, they figure you're looking for some female in her 20s or 30s; or you wouldn't brag so much about how virile you are. Your character and values matters more to a sophisticated mature-woman. There are too many kooks, old pervs, and players who look great; but aren't worth the dirt they stand on.
Dear sir, please don't get me wrong. I am awed and inspired by the fact that God has blessed you with good health and vitality. I hope and pray I will be so blessed when I get there; but I also work very hard at trying to keep things in perspective when it comes to how I see other people, and what I'm expecting from them. It's hard to find people who want to be a true Christian; meaning according to what Jesus describes how we should be. Yes, it is hard meeting His standards; but prayer and faith is required to gain God's grace, which makes us exactly what He wants us to be. He actually helps and makes a way. Never asking humans to be what we could never achieve. He made us, so He knows what to expect of us. He bore the cross, but we hate giving-up the pleasures of sin. Our flesh demands a lot, so it's in competition in what God wants. What we want is selfish, and hard on others. God sees and values the heart and spirit; while all we want and see is the skin around it.
I've learned that love is a gift; and sometimes we should focus more on the giver than the gift. Love is harder to come-by than pretty-people. I don't care how lovely we might preserve our looks into our old-age; but we still look old, healthy or not. Our inner-beauty is what deserves the most appreciation and attention; and sometimes, we should put value in those things that enrich our lives the most. Our eyes are greedy, but our hearts are the core of who we are. We should seek that which lasts longer, over what fades and falls away with time. Wisdom also comes with age, dear sir.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2022): If you are fit and healthy and take care of yourself you are right to insist your partner is the same and you will find someone, but it takes time, it's always more difficult to find someone when you are different and want something different to match you. Of course if you were fat and drank and ate rubbish all day this would not bother you and you would say it does not matter. Why? Because you are uneducated and unknowledgeable, and because you would be a hypocrite to expect someone who has more to offer than you to be interested in you.I know a lot of single people who are looking for a partner. The reason they are still looking is either because they have more to offer and can be more selective OR because they are being far too picky and wanting to update - i.e. a very old ugly man only wanting gorgeous young women - fat chance.You will find that people who do not have much to offer will not understand you at all. They think because they have settled or had to settle you should too, which is ridiculous.I've often met men who do not have a job or any prospects expecting me to "make do" with them when I hire people to work for me who have a lot more to offer than them!The whole idea of finding a partner is to complete you and make you happy not to end up giving them money, wet nursing them, solving their problems, providing them with comforts. If I had wanted a little boy I would have given birth to a baby not taken on a grown man who is lazy or incompetent. Such people are very boring to be with anyway.And you would never be able to rely on them for anything.They would not even be able to take a message on the phone for you and get it right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2022): Women are more than their height and weight … as are menPerhaps learn to look a little deeper you will find there are plenty of women out there
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2022): Totally get it. Like you I keep fit, exercise properly daily, do not drink alcohol, take drugs, smoke or eat a lot of junk food. Have a lively learning mind. Yet if I go out now to find a guy it would be a waste of time. They are either just looking for sex (they can go to the local parlour and pay for it there), boring, got financial problems they want "help with". Need somewhere to live and would love to move into my lovely big house with me paying all or most of the expenses plus some. No personality. No good at making decisions or solving or preventing problems. Eat a lot of junk, get drunk regularly, take drugs or smoke. More like stupid children than grown adults I would want to share my time with. But thankfully I have a lovely man. And he is worth being with. Because believe me if he was not I would be single.Not making do with rubbish. I've worked very hard to buy my various properties, investments, savings etc and would not share it with some lazy or dumb or needy guy just to get his company and give him sex.I hope you have also taken care of the financial side.After all at our age we have had plenty of years to do it.Looking after our body is very important, but we also need to be able to pay the bills and have somewhere lovely to live. I know a lot of old ladies who are fat and frumpy, boring, only wanting a man because he has a car and can give them lifts to their grandkids and hospital appointments, mow the lawn and clean the windows, users in other words.The more you have to offer the more people will want you and the fussier you can be.
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