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writes:Dear AllMy apologies for my continued posting but I just can’t do without you guys, seriously! I feel that by posting I can just let out my feelings! My life has been crazy these last two weeks after two and a quarter years of knowing a girls major steps in a relationship have all taken place in such a small period of time, leaving me dazzled!I had a real good chance with her and sadly missed it and ever since I have felt so depressed and it’s terrible as even my colleagues etc are beginning to notice. I exchanged numbers with her a few days ago and since then it has got worse! She has completely ignored me it’s like stepping back two and a qarter years, I’m devastated. I just don’t get what I have done to make it so bad! All I can imagine is that ever, a) I have missed a one and only ever chance of going that extra chance with her, or b) Someone has told her rubbish about me or thirdly c) I have taken things too quick since the day I missed out and she can’t cope.I promise everyone that I’m not getting over stressed or worried, all my friends etc also noticed here sudden disinterest in me. Today she just walked right past me and pretend I was invisible, literally!Please if anyone can understand what is going on here please reply I’m so upset, I can’t escape from my strong feelings towards her, I have even dreamt that I have been working with her each night for the last two weeks, I have even awoken myself several times as I have been sleep talking to her!It’s her birthday in under a month and I’m desperate to have sorted things out before then! I can’t bare being so upset like I am it’s so depressing and it’s distracting me from my life!Thanks for any replies I may kindly receive!G-763
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reader, G-763 +, writes (8 March 2007):
G-763 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hello everyoneThank you for your replies, I have taken your advice ‘rhythmandblues2’ and have spoken to people that I feel are appropriate as you recommended. It has slightly helped me for now but I think your right, it shall really help over time!‘aunty t’ I don’t mean to be rude as I fully understand that you think that you have not seen my earlier posts. Basically I never used to believe in young teenage love, I never wanted to become involved with girls in that manor, until I was at least 16/18.My friend was just a friend until six months ago, I didn’t notice at first until close friends advised me that it was damn obvious that she had an interest in me (these last few months it became obvious to me too) I posted a post asking everyone on the site asking if they agreed that she liked me and people kindly agreed.The reason for my upset is that I had always admired her as a person, when I realized that I had an opportunity to become close with her it was like meeting my dream girl, even though I felt I was not ready for at least another year or two, I took the opportunity.We are still just friends but for a few weeks we were so happy I felt so happy and relaxed when I was with her, she made me so happy. Unlike most teenagers who have girl/boy friends because of their bodies etc, we were just really, really good friends and I loved her and I still do and her friends felt that she loved me too.Many were jealous of our friendship as she was the one who approached me and people noticed are lovely friendship, even adults described as lovely!I really feel that someone has said something nasty about me as they are jealous and that’s why I’m so upset and miserable as whatever someone said they have really upset her as she totally ignores me now! I was never eager to be honest I was the laid back one. I’m devastated as, as of tomorrow (9th March), marks 800 days since we first met and became good friends. I can’t stand us not talking I miss her so much, I have known her too long to forget about her!Thanks for the adviceG-763P.S Hopefully I have made it a but clearer, thanks!
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reader, aunty t  +, writes (8 March 2007):
 I think that you are getting yourself in a bit of a state here. If I didnt know better i would say wou are talking about royalty. Why is she so special? She isnt given you any signals that she is thinking about you in the same way.
I really think that you need to pull back alot. There is nothing more off putting than a man that is too eager. As I didnt see your earlier post I am just going by what I have just seen now. Maybe if you show a lack of interest in her she will be more friendly with you if not I forget about her and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2007): Hi G-763, I am not sure I have seen your earlier posts, but it sounds to me that you are bordering on obsession here and maybe you are pursuing her too hard? I don't know because I don't know what you are doing.
You need to calm down a bit, and try to get interested in something else besides this girl, you do have a pretty big crush on her and it is quite cute and sweet, that said, don't obsess over it, it is not healthy for you as you say you are depressed.
The fact that you are depressed and it has been going on for more than two weeks really does concern me. You may actually be in a real depression and this is really distorting your view of reality, maybe she isn't rejecting you at all, but just isn't jumping all over you, she can't read your mind after all, asking for her number is no big deal.
Please go and see your doctor and tell them how you are feeling, tell you parents or a trusted school counselor.
Depression isn't anything to ignore, and it does not mean that you are a weak person, just someone who may need some help to feel better, and more on an even keel. Depression is very painful, you actually feel it hurt in your body with aches, pains, stomach issues, all of it. This needs to be addresses as quickly as possible, because if left untreated it can go from bad to worse. I don't mean to scare you, I just want you to feel better and more like yourself. Maybe it is not real depression at all, but I think you need to find out if it is.
You sound like a very intelligent mature nice guy.
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