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writes:I've been always trying to avoid to answer when someone asks me about my dream and what I wanna be because I've never been able to tell. I don't know what I want and what I wanna be. I'm 21 now with no goals. I'm not sure of my life. I'm studying international relations what then what is the next step I've no idea. Can anybody tey to help me please Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you. I'm bad at math and my study is in English anyway. I'll try to see what else I need to learn and what skills are required. I'll give myself some more time to discover.
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (16 August 2011):
 When I was at that stage of life, I concentrated on the basic courses and took at least one "exploring" course in a different field.
I learned more about what I did NOT want to do-which lead me to what I do now:)
Remember, the education is only the first step to proove you can tackle a goal and see it through. That does not mean that degree locks you into something you really do not want to do the rest of your life.
Most people now change career field 4-5 times in their lifetime!
A job is making a living-Making a life in something entirely different!
Good Luck!
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reader, Shez50  +, writes (16 August 2011):
Hey,,, try not to be to hard on yourself for not having your goals set out yet, that is perfectly normal,, I suggest dont think about your goals for a while, relax and focus your study, dont forget to have some fun and everything else will fall into place. Sometimes answers come to us when we least expect them to.
Good luck!!
Shez50
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (16 August 2011):
Hello dear,
I've had the 'now what' phase as well, ironically exactly at your age. I'm 23 now and I am finally getting things on track, but I still wonder if it'll all work out. What helped me get into the right direction is talking to the professors at Uni and asking them what kind of jobs I could get with the course I'd chosen. Ask different professors so you'll get different answers. Write it down and research it, see what you like and what you don't.
If you still have no clue after that, grab a piece of paper and write down things that interest you. Anything from hobbies to politics, to impossible aspirations like a music career. It doesn't matter how unlikely, just write it down. Then let someone (a parent/friend/etc.) read it over and ask them what they think. Put it next to the list of jobs you wrote down related to your education.
Sometimes, instead of clarifying, education just confuses. When I started my study at Uni I was pretty sure about what I wanted to be. Fast forward two years and I had no clue anymore because it all turned out to be so different from what I expected. So get informed. Read up on follow-up courses.
Maybe do this job interest test to give an indication of where you'd be best suited. Though the results may seem a little off at times (mine said I should become a bodyguard) it might just be what you need. (After my pilot dream got crushed because of the crisis, I'm now on my way to becoming a detective.) Also, like BettyBoup said, look into jobs that may not tickle your fancy right off the bat. Often, perception differs from reality.
Lastly, don't get too worked up. Not many people stay at the same job their entire life. So be open. You'll find your footing.
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reader, BettyBoup  +, writes (16 August 2011):
 Try not to worry too much. There is too much pressure these days to make these decisions, and we are expected to know what we want to do from our early teens. Well, not everyone does. You are still figuring out who you are, and what is important, so it will take a while before you can chose a career with certainty.
However, you have made a choice, international relations. What got you to that choice? Did you have a career in mind? What was important about that subject. Are these things still relevant to you now?
Also I would say, you don't need to focus soley on one career or job. It is a good thing to be open minded and flexable in today's job market. As long as you can work out what area you want to work in and get the qualifications you need for this area, you don't need to worry about specifics yet. When you come to search for a job there may be jobs you havn't thought about, that would suit you down to the ground. It might help to look at what jobs are available at the moment, so you know what there is out there.
I assume you are studying at university. If so, there should be a careers advice centre on campus. Make an appointment with them. It is their job to help people make these important decisions.
Good luck
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