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writes:about 7 months ago i lost the love of my life he was my everything i loved himm so much ... since he broke up with me we slept together on a few occasions ..im still madly in love with him but cant seem to move on other guys dont appeal to me cos i felt a connection with my ex from day dot.. i cant seem to loose the feelings .. at times i think he isnt sure wat he wants with his actions about a month ago he was texting me wanting me to sleep with him i didnt though.cos it hurt too much cos im still very attracted to him ... a week later hes in a relationship which is a long distance one .. im sooo gutted i feel soo used and stupid it hurts soo much,, i txt him the other day telling him how hurt i am cos of what he has done and leting my emotions take control .. it wasnt the nicest message but it had to be said cos ive been so nice to him after everything he did .. he didnt reply 4 a few days but when he did it was at 1:00am he cracked it at me saying that im full of shit and that it hurt him with what i said to him.. so i txt him to say i wanted my shit back cos ive waited soo long 4 them back so i decided i had enough .. he told me to come over and get them so i did .. when i was there he was asking me why i said that he was an asshole and i told him he hurt me and shit.. any way he kept saying that hes in the relationship and that she is his future but he also said its not a serious relationship cos its long distance and stuff ..this was killing me inside him telling me this was absolute torture but i kept a cool head and just listened.. things started to get relly weird because he was saying that if he wasnt in the relationship he would sleep with me and he was saying that im very attactive and have a great body and all this shit .. i didnt know what to say so i just stood there cos it was sooo weird him saying that .. he was telling me how much he didnt want to dump me but he felt like he had to watch everything he said cos i was getting upset real easy ... ( i had a little bit of depression) but i always treated him right i gave him the world he told me i was the best gf he has had and that he was thinking of marrying me but then it went bad .. anyway it was getting late so i got my stuff and was goin to go home when i was walking out to my car he was putting his arm around me and stuff.(weird) then he grabbed me and started cuddling me and saying that if he wasnt in the relationship he would go me and asked me if i went inside would i do anything and im like hell no ur in a relationhip and i hate cheaters i wouldnt do that ever.... then he was like as if u wouldnt do anything and hes like u wouldnt be the 1 cheating i would be im like nOOOOOO then hes like ohh thats good cos i wouldnt anyway but i couldnt belive it at all i just didnt know wat to do i couldnt beive i was hearing this ... he put his arms around me and started to cuddle me again then he kisssed my forehead and said goodbye .. i was like wtf ... i dont know what he is doin or what hes playing at .. can any1 help me plz
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (26 May 2009):
 He's playing at "messing around with you." It's a game played by typical guys (girls do that too) to get what they want out of a girl.
He knows that you have feelings for him and he's putting it to his advantage.
You're being used, that's not love.
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reader, mitta  +, writes (26 May 2009):
He just wanted to use you for sex. Plain and simple.
Maybe its a good thing you got out of this relationship because he sounds like a dishonest person, he was obviously willing to cheat on his gf with you, he was testing the water to see how you would react.
This is also very cruel beause he knows you still have strong feelings about him, but was still willing to play with your mind and use you.
Stay well away from this man, he doesnt love you.
i know its hard to get over someone you really really love but you deserve better than this. He is NOT your perfect man, otherwise he wouldnt treat you like this.
Ignore him, and resist the temptation to txt or call him, burn everything with his number on! And change your number, block any social network sites etc. It might be dramatci but its the best way to getting on the road to getting over him. i know further along you may want to make him hurt but the best thing to do is to move on , its the best revenge.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): Okay, from what I can see this guy is using you. He is after one thing from you...SEX! I know it must be difficult when you are in the situation, and there are feelings swirling around inside you. But from an outsiders perspective, it is blatantly clear to me what he is up to.
As for being confused about the nice things he sometimes says to you, I think he will say anything in his efforts to get you to go to bed with him. I actually feel really angry with him, because he is playing with you, and you deserve to be treated so much better than this.
It might take a long time to get over him, but the more you see him and have contact with him, the harder it will be, and the longer it will all just drag out. If you do want to move on from him, I suggest cutting off ALL contact with him once and for all, and make it clear to him that you want him to leave you alone from now on. And then stand strong. If he starts contacting you, don't get drawn into it.
This won't be easy, I'm sure, but I really do think you can do so much better than this guy. xx
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