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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have a couple problems I hope to get help with. Me and my girlfriend for a year now are in a log distance relationship and our only means of sexual pleasure is phone sex we use to do it all the time now very little but she will always tease me and turn me on then just leave I love her to death but quite frankly it irritating. When we do get intamite it's amazing my question is we don't have sex enough and I'm wondering what I should do she says she's not got a high sex drive any more but will masturbate then tell me she did . Second thing we can chat all the time and yes iv done some naughty stuff for her on cam at her request but she won't don anything for me all I want is to see my girlfriends amazing body not even for sexual perposes just to see it's beauty . She teases me with showing me but again nothing. What should I do? Last we are gonna spend some time together in July and I'm a virgin so is she apart from some oral on both parts not to each other. but we are both ready to have sex my problem is I hate my body medication I was on caused me to gain weight and shrink my manhood gotta love steroids I'm just terrified she won't like me. And will hate my performance I don't know really how to have sex and I know she's wanting missionary any advice :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2011): Firstly, it's not how big it is, it's what you do with it! Neither you or your girlfriend have had sex before, so neither of you can compare performance. Also, the weight gain shouldn't be a problem either. Love your body, and she will love it too. Perhaps you could tell her your worries before you see each other.
With the whole cam thing - my boyfriend and I sometimes go on cam (even though we are not long distance). He has no problem showing me himself, whereas I am a little more withdrawn. Perhaps she has body hang ups too? Assure her that you love every bit of her - maybe that's all she needs to hear?
Lastly, I don't think it's a case of 'knowing' how to have sex. Everyone has a first time, and you are lucky enough to share yours with someone else's first time. Maybe you could do something special for her, to get her in the mood?
You could try a bath with scented candles, and some nice music?
Or simply just lie with her, talk to her, enjoy the intimacy you have with her, and sex will come itself. It's always best when it's not planned.
just try to relax, and it will all come to you. And enjoy it :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2011): Tell her your problem. If she still like you. Not only sex she want in you to make her happy. Your so blessed to have her. My boyfriend also have a problem like you. But i still like him. I like everything in him. Because he also like everything in me. We also have plan to met this July. Reading your problem lessen my fear in meeting him. I have confidence now.
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