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anonymous
writes:I don't know if i'm still in love with my ex...We had 5 yrs LDR and broke it off a little over one year ago. since then, we both started new relationships, but mantained frequent contact.A couple of weeks ago, we both started flirting over e-mail and ended up meeting in my place.he kissed me and i kissed him back.... there's no excuse to what I did to my bf... i thought i loved him, but now, i don't know anymore... and i also thoght i was over my ex, but now i can't stop thinking about him!i sugested my ex we stoped talking, but he said he wants to figure out what i mean to him...there's no way we will see each other again this year... and i also want to figure out if i still love him... this feeling, a mix of guilt and not knowing what to do, is eating me up!what do i do?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (17 October 2012):
 well first of all you must end it with the current boyfriend.
If you seek clarity having a boyfriend while trying to figure out if you want to be with an ex is too difficult and not fair to your boyfriend.
Why are you in frequent contact with an EX? what part of his being an EX is too hard for you? who broke up with who and why?
see the problem is if a person is an EX they are an EX for a reason... and unless you have children together i see no reason for us to have contact regularly with our ex partners.
I run into my ex husband occasionally as we travel in similar hobby circles... we are friendly... but we are not friends.... I have no need or desire to have regular contact with him.. if I did he would not be an ex
you are 25 you had a 5 year relationship that ended a year ago so you were with this guy from about 17 till about 24 right? (if you are younger then it still applies)...
17-24 is young and often what we want changes.
being LDR is also difficult and after 5 years it should not be LDR (being young and in school makes that difficult I know)
if you start up with him again who's moving to be with whom?
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