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writes:Should I go dating with a guy I have feelings for when I am still not over the pain and hurt from the last relationship? I have feelings for this guy but I am really afraid to fall in love again because of the betrayal from my previous relationship (half a year ago). I don't know if I should just let this chance pass by as I don't think I am that ready to go out in the dating scene again... However, I cannot control my feelings of my interest in this guy what should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, lucy.whittaker  +, writes (13 December 2009):
 Hey,
I was sort of in your position about 3 weeks ago. My ex and I split after 3 years in September and I was in pieces, and I'm still very hurt about it all. However, I met Ben and we really really clicked and he makes me happy. The way I handled it was to explain to my new guy how I felt, that I was still hurting from my break up, and if he can handle that I am still upset and if he still wants to be with me then I'm happy.
The first thing I did when Ben spoke to me about how he felt about me was call my mum and ask if she thought it was a good idea to get into something new. She told me this:
'If you've found someone who's going to make you happy there's no point in sitting around and watching them pass you by. If it feels right, go for it'
I did, and from what I can tell so far it was the best thing I could have done :)
Even if you decide not to be with this new guy I hope you are happy!
Good Luck,
Lucy x x x
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