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writes:im 22 and im getting divorced. i was married for about 2 weeks then she left. she saw texts from girls that i did not think was bad but she blew it up and left. she said she was still in love with ehr x and wanted to be with him but she says different now. i married her cuz i thought i was doing right thing cuz i got her preg. i want us to be together and raise our daughter since my job consists of moving every few years. idk if i should even try or not. she wanted the divorce and me and her faught bad when she left off and on but i think were getting better at not fighting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2010): OooooKkkkkkk, so Both u and her screwed up, big time.
You were newly married and u were texting other women. That is cheating in my books.
And u have the nerve to say she overreacted and left.
If my hubby did that I would have inflicted some damage then I would have left, so consider yourself lucky she just left u.
Then on her side she said she was still in love with her ex. After she left did she hook up with huim. Meaning was she sleeping with him. If she was, then bud, do nit even consider taking her back. Meaning she CHEATED!!! So get rid of her.
Also why the hell are YOU trying so hard (if you Fed up, then u should grovel) but MR. She is messing u around. Your poor baby.
So chalk it down to experience and say Bye Bye to the wifey but support your baby.
I do not think your wife deliberately got herself pregnant so cut her some slack over this. But kniow this, if she cheated while married to you (seperated or not) get rid of her.
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reader, Odds +, writes (1 November 2010):
 Let's look at a few points here.
"i married her cuz i thought i was doing right thing cuz i got her preg."
No, first mistake. You didn't get her pregnant, she allowed herself to be impregnated. She has the pill, the morning after pill, IUD's, abstinence, abortions, and more to control her fertility. And she can insist on condom use. You have condoms (which are pretty ineffective at preventing pregnancy over the long term) and abstinence. The bulk of the responsibility is on her. Still, good on you for sticking around for your kid - in a more innocent age, that would have beent he right decision, and I can admire it even now.
"she said she was still in love with ehr x and wanted to be with him but she says different now."
Either the ex laughed in her face or he makes less money than you do. There are good women out there; this is not one of them. Do not trust her. I'd be surprised if she's not already cheating (not sure if it counts as "cheating" at this point, but your get the idea).
Look, if you divorce her now, you can get out just owing child support. Do it before you start making serious money, before you might start owing alimony or have a significant amount of property to divide. This woman is after you solely as a workhorse, not as a man.
Your kid is the one I feel most sorry for, but if your wife is going to act this way, that kid's gonna be screwed up no matter what you do. Fight for custody if you can, but your odds are pretty bad. If it doesn't work out, it's a tragedy, but less than if you let this woman continue to ruin your life. And you still get every other weekend.
In any event, do not allow any person to treat you as poorly as your wife has, or they will do it again. I'm sorry, but walk out on this before it gets worse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2010): I loved her thats why i married her but it was lil rushed cuz of the baby. but yea i tried but we fight. and i want us to be together for our daughter but its not going to happen. i been trying. she wont come back she is living with a relative now. she says she cant trust me anymore. i tried for annulment but its rare and they changed it where it dont matter how long married for but its a joint divorece like a no fault. she wantes to stay freidns but we take one step forward adn 2 back. i saw myself with her so i asked her to marry me. now i only get the kid every other weekend when she is born becuase of my work schedual.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2010): All i have to say is a wife shouldn't get so upset over text messages. She has a daughter now, she shouldn't be acting like shes in high school. You can't stay in a unstable relationship and be happy. Just ask yourself this... "Do i want to stay in a relationsip with a person who might leave over little things?"
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (31 October 2010):
 She left after 2 weeks of being newlyweds?? Bad sign to throw up the divorce card that quick. So, you married her because she's pregnant with your child, not because you love her? If you married her for that purpose then no your marriage won't last that long. With that being said, no one said marriage was a cake walk. It's much easier to walk away, file for annulment, or a divorce than to stay and really fix the marriage. Hence why the divorce rate is at 60% and rising in the US.
If you truly love her, then stay and work on the marriage..possibly seek marriage counseling. However, if it's surely over with proceed with a divorce..and work out visitations and child support. Better luck next time!
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (31 October 2010):
 Sounds like she was just looking for an excuse to go back to her ex and she may have overblown those msgs in order to do that... But that kinda depends on what the msgs said..
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