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writes:So this girl from my class invited me to her house party and later that week i danced with her at the bar and she was grindin all over me and had her arms around my neck. Then once everyone left the bars she texted me and we were flirting a bit, after a bit she said we r fighting haha and i said well am i still invited to your party and she said you hav to make it up too me lol i responded id think of somethin. the next day we kept textin alittle but i didn't wanna over do it and seem desperate. Then the next day i showed up to her party with my friend and there were only like 12 people there and we played some drinkin games. Then a bunch of people showed up who me and my friend didn't know, and by this point me and my friend were drunk. My friend came up to me and said he man u wanna bounce, and without even thinking i said ya and we left (she was talkin to other guys and people and i jus thought it didn't matter cause she wasn't hangin with me anyway).The next morning i wake up and she texted me at 4 or 7 am (stupid phone) saying i hope u guys had a fun time, i dont think you even said goodbye (sad face) haha jus kiddin. So i told her our roommates were locked out and we had to let them in and i asked how the rest of the party was, she said it was cool and she was really drunk. I said i was bummed i had to leave. That next class she made it announced to sit next to me. So after that ive been textin back in forth with her for the past week an a half about hanging out and she invited me to go out with her and her friends to an amusement park. and i said i couldn't afford it but i invited her to come over after to hang but she never got back to me. So i sent her a chat on facebook last night and we talked for a bit. My plan is to go to class tonight and if she sits next to me, im gonna ask her out for tomorrow for dinner, but if she doesnt? SHOULD I DO THAT OR SHOULD I KEEP DOIN WHAT IM DOIN??? I HAV A NACK FOR COMING OFF TOO STRONG SO I NEED ADVICE?? WHERE SHOULD I GO FROM HERE CAUSE I CANT TELL IF IM ALREADY IN THE FRIEND ZONE? Please let me know what to do...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2010): Dude, I've been in this situation with a guy for two and a half years, although things have developed a bit there's nothing resembling what I really want from him. I still can't say anything about how I really feel about him. You don't need to come on strong to ask a girl out, just invite her for dinner and be yourself. If she says no there's nothing stopping you staying her friend, if she says yes it might turn into something great. If you say nothing, nothing will happen. And if you carry on as you are she might think you don't want to date her, you just want to keep it casual. I say go for it, bite the bullet, what's the worst that could happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2010): LOL ur not in friend zone pal. Im the friend zone douche and I envy guys like you. You got game here and play it well...even if she doesnt sit next to you ask her out for din din...this will show you have confidence in wanting her and are of course interested. She is obviously interested in you and goes both ways so therefore this wont come off as strong. Also, dont take her to dinner somewhere fancy or to someplace like hymies hunan (watch weekend at bernies for reference lol). Too fancy says ur just trying to impress and too low says u have no class. Find somewhere in between or perhaps even offer to cook her dinner (no candles, nothin romancy yet) and if you do this come up with your own idea...women love that. Ive done it and worked out well because it shows ur creative and original maybe and ladies "adore" that crap lol.
PS stay away from the booze, you deserve a pure experience with any girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2010): Just ask her on a date.. or for a movie or something.. let her do most of the talking.. that way you dont come off strong.. but dont keep silent or you will just look stupid.. be brave. your in the friend zone.. try to get to no her more..
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