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writes:I broke up with my ex 9 months ago because i found out he had cheated a few times and just generally flirted with everyone. We were in a LDR between the UK and the USA. I split up with him over the phone when i returned home but I cant stop thinking about him, i miss him so much, i send him emails/call him about anything just to have his attention or hear his voice. I still love him and most nights i cry myself to sleep because i miss him so much. I dream about flying back just to see him one more time. Do you think I cant get over him because ive never had the chance to talk to him face to face? Do you reckon that would give me closure? Or make it worse?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt turns out he has a new girlfriend of 3 months and they're having a baby. Half of me feels like someone has ripped out my heart and the other is signalling to me that this is a clear cut sign that I need to walk away from him. It just hurts because I imagined me and him having a family.
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reader, TexasTexas +, writes (12 February 2011):
You only want a "closure" opportunity because you are hoping the flame will be re-ignited if ya'll get together.He would be on your front-steps begging if he wanted you.He's a cheater and he's not into you. ------And you are wasting your time thinking of him?!
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reader, Blonde68  +, writes (12 February 2011):
Sorry to hear you are feeling such pain, it isn't nice is it..
I personally don't think meeting up face to face will do you any good, or give you closure or even resolve anything. Also, do you really want to be in a relationship with someone who has cheated on you... LDR are difficult at the best of times, but if you haven't got trust there is just no chance that it would workout.
Accepting that is is over is basically just a matter of time... time is the only healer when you are feeling like you do. But with time you will recover believe me. At the moment he is probably the first thing on your mind when you wake and the last thing on your mind as you fall asleep and constantly on your mind in between... but this will fade, and your heart will recover and you will be able to move on. I know, I have been there... so I know you will be ok.
Try and fill your time meeting up with friends, take up a hobby, but more importantly, you need to delete him completely out of your life... delete him from your phone, email etc so that will prevent you from having the urge to contact him... it will take some willpower, but you can do anything if you put your mind to it.
Hang in there... you will be ok x
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reader, friend for life +, writes (12 February 2011):
 if thats what it takes for you to feel closure then do it,but i think it would be better just to completely cut him out of your life,because your heart wont heal if your breaking it daily.you deserve to be with a person who will treat you with more respect than that,my advice would be instead of wastig your tears on him,go find someone who will make you smile,you will be fine without him.good luck.
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