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writes:Basically I have been in a relationship for a long long time. I met him when we were young teens and have been with him ever since. I really did used to love him, despite the face he cheated on me numerous times. I forgave him but we still have trust issues. I have had chance to cheat in the past but never did until i met this one guy 2 years ago. I knew something was different about him, we connected. I have seen him on and off since but due to his work i don't get to see him often plus he is now in a relationship and has a kid with her, he says he is only with her for that reason. Im so head over heels in love with him but i don't think he knows how i feel and i have a feeling he feels the same way. I am now settled with my boyfriend and we are buying a house together, but i don't know if i want to be with him anymore, it is not the right time to tell him as he suffered bereavement and we are going through a lot. I dunno if i don't wanna be with him due to the other guy or just coz i don't want to anymore, even though i know me and this other guy may never be an item, i can't stand the way i feel about the other guy compared to my boyfriend, it kills me. I dunno wat to do, help!
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reader, chicfrumdastix  +, writes (11 May 2010):
 you need to end this relationship. its obvious its over anyways. and then u can figure out who comes next in ur life. but for now, do the right thing and end this mess!!!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (11 May 2010):
You need to end this mess now. Neither you or your boyfriend are committed, and this is not going to get better. Whether he's suffered a bereavement or not, you have to leave. He'll feel worse if he knows you were cheating on him while he was bereaved. End it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2010): There is no 'right' time to tell someone this. Don't buy a house with someone if you are not 100% committed, to your boyfriend which your not if you are see someone else behind his back.
As for the other guy he has met someone else, while seeing you and has a child with her, but of course that is the only reason he is with her. I hate to tell you this but he is with her because he wants to be and wants to have his cake and eat it with you.
I think it's time to walk away from both of these. Find someone you want to be with 100%.
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