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writes:This is long, so thanks if you read all of this.I've been with my girlfriend for a year and a half now and we love each other. I am 17 and she is 18. For the first year of our relationship, everything went great. We were two pees in a pod and couldn't be separated. We said I love you 5 months in, and the rest is history. Then something happened. My girlfriend started to become jealous and just downright mean. Here's an example: We were at a Walmart picking up condoms (lol) and she says "you stay here and i'll get them". I say ok and she goes... when she was getting them I got a text from a girl from my physics class in high school. She says "hey can you take notes for me, not gonna make it today". I smile and text back "im with my girlfriend, not gonna make it either"well apparently, my girlfriend saw me smile and she thought I was... and I quote... "finding love elsewhere".I don't know where she gets this from. I had/have done nothing to warrant that kind of accusation. She just assumes I was cheating because I smiled at a text?Fastforward now.Her mother has always been a downright bi-polar woman. She will be an angel one minute and satan the next. Yelling and screaming will turn into laughter and smiling. They always get in fights and I always end up having to console my gf. I don't have a problem with that at all its just that I am a very even keeled guy. Lots of stuff excites me or makes me sad, but I keep it to myself for the most part. And my girlfriend is the exact opposite. So she doesn't think I back her up enough and boom... we are in a fight.Last week, she finally admitted that she had a problem and she wants to go see a psychiatrist because she is not happy with her life. So that's good. But my girlfriend is trying to balance school, work, me, and her home issues and I don't know if I fit into that equation any more.Basically, I don't know what to do. I love her and I want the best for her so she can be happy... but I don't know if this relationship is going anywhere. I see other girls at my school and I think maybe is the grass greener? I'm young and I don't want to get stuck where I am not happy. I want the best for both of us.Thanks for listening, Chris.
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reader, chris27 +, writes (5 February 2011):
chris27 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to those who responded. I think I am gonna talk to her on Valentine's day and tell her that I really want things to work out between us. Of late, she's been better. So I'm going to do something nice for her on Valentines and hope it helps :)
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reader, burberrypie  +, writes (4 February 2011):
Personally mate, from what you have described I can clearly picture this mother figure and how she would have a negative impact on your girlfriend.
Does your girlfriend have any siblings? Do they act in the same way?
I really think if you took her away for the weekend somewhere (does not have to be fancy), you could enjoy each others company in privacy and use it as a more neutral platform to discuss your views with her.
At the end of the day, you are young and have still alot left to learn about life and relationships.. You might well be surprised at the results.
Just be honest with her.. im sure the answers you seek will become evident :)
All the best
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (4 February 2011):
You sound like you have made your decision and know what you want already. You are young, and it's perfectly natural to want to date others, especially when your current relationship isn't making you happy. It seems to me that you're afraid to break up because you don't want to hurt your girlfriend. If you were a little older, I might encourage you to try to work things out with your girlfriend. You could talk to her and together, try to improve the relationship. And if you do want to do that, you can. Relationships have low points, but they can get better. But I think it's bigger than just that. I think that you feel like the relationship might have reached the end of its course, and it's time to move on and have new life experiences. Perfectly normal. And if that's how you feel, you need to tell your gf now, before the relationship goes further, so that both of you can move on.
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reader, chris27 +, writes (4 February 2011):
chris27 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionanswers will be greatly appreciated.
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