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writes: i am with this girl undercover right now for the past 2 years, she has liked me for 8 years, before i just used her as a "booty call" but never had feelings for her, she was always around my and my friends, now i am really attached to her and i like her, but at times i doubt the situation, do i have ENOUGH feelings do i feel her ENOUGH? ENough to settle down? i cant even know how i am feeling, please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2005):
Where is 'settling down' coming from? Are you coming off a bad break up or something?
I doubt you feel enough for her, for her to be 'the one' for you or it would have been appearent before your current issue. Please at least treat the girl with some respect, because I get the feeling that she has been pining away for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2005): hello,
it sounds like since you only knew this girl as a "booty call", you don't really know her that well. but you are starting to become attracted to her. maybe it is too early in the relationship to be considering "settling down", but you could try asking her on a few dates to see where the two of you stand as far as potentially becoming girlfriend and boyfriend. why not ask her what she thinks? why not ask close friends who are also involved in the situation? (although your own feelings should preside over friend's but it always helps to have opinions). since you know that you have some feelings but are concerned about having enough, why not consider this as a porential dating situation. ask her out and get to know her. if you guys hit it off, great! if not, maybe it wasn't meant to be.
either way, by getting to know her one one one (outside of the bedroom), you will at least e better able to understand how you feel.
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reader, beenthere +, writes (12 December 2005):
you know you have feelings for her. all you need to do is work on it. don't think about settling down if you're not ready
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