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writes:From what I understand MOST LDRs don't work out in the end. I understand there are some, and it all depends on the relationship, and the circumstances, but for the most part, I don't have faith I could survive one. The problem is I'm just entering my party phase, and my fiancée is a homebody. I'm moving away to go to a university (a huge party school), and he's staying down here for college and an internship. We'd be apart for 2 or so years, living about 5 hours away from each other. I'm having serious doubts if it'll work out. I thought the whole point of being engaged to someone is so that you can expeirence life together. I dont want to be with anyone else, but I feel like I'm too serious about school, and just wanna relax and dance with him. We hardly ever go out as it is, and he doesn't seem to be taking the whole thing seriously. We only have 5 months left together, and I'm wondering if I should end it..It'd break my heart, but is it worth the torture of being apart?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 July 2011):
 well sadly it will probably never change that you want to go out and he does not....
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2011): Its more or less that we dont go out at all. I want to go out anywhere just once in a while. He is older than me, but i wouldnt say were at different phases of life.
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reader, sammy1986  +, writes (3 July 2011):
a lot of long distance relationships can work out if you make regular visits to see each other and keep in contact phone calls texts email that sorta thing amd as for you wanting to go out all the time and him wanting to stay in work something out compromise maybe you can have a 3 or 4 nights a week in alone together and the other 3 maybe go out with your friends and suggest he do the same
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 July 2011):
i'm not sure that LDR Is your biggest problem. Is your fiance older than you? IF not you may not be a different phases of life, you may have incompatible styles. You may like to go out and party and be out... that will not change. He may prefer to be home and that will not change. It may be a hard thing to do but you may have to come up with compromises later on.... or it may not be a fixable thing...
a short term LDR for the sake of work or schooling is a perfectly workable deal.....
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