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writes:Well I am back again. Had a great b/f everything was fun but when an ex of 5 months saw us together he went crazy and became a stalker. Bottom line b/f didn't beleive me that it had ended. We split up but we got back together but I had too many insecurities due to what happened and went on the calls and text messaging thing which caused us to split again. Now we have been in contact again. Still really love him, feels he loves me. He has been there for me mostly via phone, although we did see each other for dinner and slept together twice once 3 weeks ago which I was fine with and now just 2 days ago. Our last encounter was fine, almost like in the beginning. But now I have not heard from him although I did call him yesterday on business and when I hung up I said I will talk to you later and he said I will hold you to that. Now I don't know what to do. I know he has been dating but no g/f yet. He has never had many g/fs. i don't know whether or not to call him or leave him alone or to have a talk with him. I can not be a FWB and told him that he said we have this great attraction which we do. I don't know if he was using me or is just taking things slow due the hurt with both had.The thing is I have tried to move on with my life and was just about there and now that I have seen him and he has not asked me out this weekend and I am destroyed inside and miserable. I really love him but what should I do? I need advice.
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reader, Jennie10 +, writes (18 July 2009):
Jennie10 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes everything has been taken care of with the stalker - he does not bother me anymore got police involved this was resolved over 8 months ago. This is what caused the prob. because the police originally told me not to get a restaining order (just a lazy cop)but the now ex b/f said do it so by not doing it was disrespectful to him. But the stalker bothered me again when I was alone and the police got him. But this has no been resolved for quite some time. He told me the other night I was strong headed mainly I guess by not listening to him then it caused a major prob. but we did go to the police and the cop said no. but anyway the problem is now. If I call him he is always there, if I ask him to do anything he will...I stayed w/ him the other night...did not think he had another girl and said no but in the morning some woman called him at 5am and says she was back. so now I think he is lying something he never did when we were together. I really don't know what to think...no signs of any woman there except different shampoo. When I was there I had the key and most of my stuff, things were great he loved, told me all the time and wanted me to move in. then the stalker. Right now I want to call him but if there is someone else i don't want to..Maybe he is thinking about us I just don't know. but what I do think is that if he wanted to be with me he would have called me to see me. I have always been pursued by men, perhaps he by women, just don't know what to do. I just miss him and the whole thing that is so SAD that all this was caused by a lunatic who was really never in my life and had no contact with him at all for 5 months and then the stalker went nuts. I need male advice.
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