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writes:My ex and I were together for about a year. We were in love, he moved in with me, I spent every Sunday with him and his family, the whole 9 yards. In the last few months we started arguing a lot. He was staying out late, drinking more, etc. Obviously this was the instigator of many of our fights and tension. Anyway, a couple weeks ago we got into a big argument and the next morning he came over, picked up a lot of his stuff and told me he needed space and wasn't sure what he wanted. It was hard for me to not talk to him so I obviously made the mistake of calling him throughout the week until about 4 days later when I talked to him and he said he was done. I went to say bye to his mom and drop off some of her things and she told me that when he left my place after getting a lot of his stuff he called her crying wondering if he had made the right decision. He told me last week he was going to come by and get the rest of his stuff and he still hasn't. I texted him yesterday to see if he was going to get it all and he called me back and told me he was sick and he would come by to see me sometime this week. When I questioned whether it was for his stuff or to see me he said, "I didn't say anything about my stuff." Of course I read into all of this and think maybe he is questioning his decision but I'm trying not to get my hopes up. I just don't know what to think and its tearing me up inside not knowing. Please help!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (30 March 2010):
Don't get your hopes up. He'd failed you, and you can do better. You're one year into your relationship and he's already walked out. You need to end it. Don't sit there wasting time and your life waiting for him to come back. Start moving on. Take his stuff around for him and leave it with him. If he wants you back, he can come crawling and work ten times as hard for your attention. But in my opinion, you can do better than someone who dumps you in the first year.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2010): So far he has said maintained that the relationship is over. He may very well have gone to his mother and questioned his decision but it still remains that to YOU he has given the impression that the relationship has ended.
He may really want to see how you are doing, after such a long relationship it is normal that he wants to check up on you to see if you are okay, but he may well be coming to collect his stuff.
I would suggest you continue with you life as if he has broken up with you and the only reason he is coming to see you is to pick his things up. You seem to be thinking far too deeply about things and quite honestly, you cannot predict the future. It is best not to get your hopes up.
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