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writes: I like this guy but I rarely see him so idk how to tell if he likes me. Usually we only talk through text messages so I cant really look for body language. How do I know if he likes me without directly asking him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2013): If you are hoping for a relationship here and what it to flourish, you'll have to see him regularly - not sure exactly how often this should be because I don't know exactly how far away you live, how much freedom you're generally given etc. It might only be once a month but if he likes you he'll make that effort and he won't mind the driving. If he's not that into you he won't be too keen to make the effort (or he may agree to meet up with you regularly in principle but in practice he never gets round to it.)If you want some indication what his thoughts/feelings might be relying on texts alone....Does he text you spontaneously? Or does he only ever respond to your texts (which could indicate that he wasn't really interested)?What does he talk about? Does he ask about your day or how you are? Does he remember things that you've told him and pay an interest in them e.g. if you'd told him you had big exam tomorrow, would he ask you the next day how it went without prompting? Does he remember birthdays etc? All of these are good signs showing that he is at lleast interested in you as a person. If he only ever wants to talk about himself or (worse) about sex - then he's probably only after one thing!When does he text you? If it's at varying and apparantly random times that's okay. If he only ever texts you at bedtime then that might mean that he doesn't spare you much thought during the day and he's not that into you. If he only texts at night and the texts are predominantly sexual in nature - I'm afraid that he may only be using you as a masturbatory aid.Does he maintain regular contact with you or does he seem to disappear sometimes and you don't hear anything from him for days with no explanation? Again this might indicate that he is off pursuing other ventures and not giving you much thought?It's really hard to judge someones feelings and motives when you can't meet them face to face but I hope this helps some.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh my bad I basically said it twice. Oh well
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIdk if i submited my last response so Ill try again
We dont hang out because he works every weekend and we both have school on weekdays (him college and me high school). I want to ask him to hang out but I cant drive and asking him to drive makes me feel like a pest.
Hes 19 and im 17
We went to school together so ive known of him for a while, we didnt actually start talking a lot untill last month.
Im afraid to call him because I dont have unlimited time on my phone and Im afraid ill run out.
Also he already knows that I like him.
No I dont feel like I have to keep him a secret because everyone knows how I feel about him.
Hope this helped you guys :D
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (15 October 2013):
 Not enough information to go on here.
It would depend on how often you talk, what you talk about and who initiates the communication.
I'm inclined to believe he doesn't feel the same for you as you do for him otherwise he'd want to talk on the phone and meet you in person instead of just text.
Again, not enough information.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSry for leaving things out :p
I rarely see him because he has already graduated and im still a senior in high school. Also I cant drive and I dont want to make him drive everywhere. And he works every weekend.
Im 17 and hes almost 19
We went to school together last year but since hes graduated ive only seen him about 3 times. He did almost take me to a concert but my mom wouldnt let me go with him because it was kinda far and she doesnt really know him.
So its basically texting because hes busy with work and were both busy with school. I would call him but I only get 300 minutes a month and im afraid that ill run out too quickly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2013): I agree that we need more information to advise you correctly?
Is this someone that you've met before in real life or someone you met online?
How old is he?
Why do you usually talk via text instead of meeting up or on the phone? Does he live far away from you? Or does he live with people who would not approve of him being friends with you? Or maybe you feel you need to keep him a secret...
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2013): Simple. Find a way to see him. You are 100% right. You cannot know how someone really feels or if you could like someone or not unless you talk and see them IRL. Relationships cannot be built or maintained through text messaging. Invite him and his friends out for a casual get together with your friends and go somewhere so you can all hang out. No pressure, no expectations, just a chance to really find out if there is something there are not.
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