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writes:Deep in the back of mind i realise that my relationship is coming to an end, we are both growing apart and going different directions in life, however everytime we break up one of us gets in touch and makes it up, its like we cant live without eachother. alot of the time i hate him, but i always hav love for him, he has been there for me over the years, ive been through alot with him although im only 18. we lost a baby together and my life is on hold because im stuck on the thought of starting a family with him. why do i feel like this? am i obsessed wit him? i seriously feel i won't cope without him in my life. why can't i let him go? does anyone understand what i am goin through? Reply to this Question
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reader, BrknHrted  +, writes (11 February 2008):
I know what you are going through. I understand that you know that you need to let go, but you love him. Sometimes it is so hard to let go of people in our lives because it just doesnt feel right without them. We become so used to being with this one person, it makes you feel like you are losing a piece of you. You share so many memories and experiences with that person. Y'all have a lot of history. But most likely, when you have a feeling it isnt going to work anymore, it isnt. Deep down you know its best to separate, but you hate the thought of him being with someone else. You know its over. Just end it. If you two were meant to be together it will happen. Just move on and try to make a good life for yourself. You will be happy one day no matter if you are in a relationship are not. I am not going to tell you it is going to be easy, because it isnt. You are going to have times when you can't go to sleep at night. You are going to think about him constantly. You are going to feel the urge to contact him. You are going to feel like you cant love someone else like you loved him. But you just have to be strong and do what you know is best for you. I hope I have helped you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2008): I can understand your pain if you have lost a baby, and it was with him. You have a bond there, but it is a bond that must be broken. If you trully love someone then you dont have feeling of hate for them ever. Therefore i think you need to walk away from him and make a complete new start for yourself, because you certainly do deserve it. It will be hard at first but very rewarding in the long term. Be strong and i am sure you will survive. Just make that break.take carexx
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