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female
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anonymous
writes:I need your help here, I have been dating this guy for a little bit more than 3 months, we live a little bit far away each other and we both have very tight schedules, the thing is with the time we have both started to have strong feelings for each other. We maintain the contact during the week. He cares about myself because I don't have very good health. At this point we are exclusive to each other, so we are not seeing anyone else. The problem comes when he told me the other day that he is in a conflict because for one side he has strong feelings towards me, and that it is been years that he doesn't feel that for anyone else. But that he is also afraid to loose his freedom. Besides this, I don't have any complaints about this guy, he does everything for me. So I honestly don't know if this guy would become serious some day or not, or if he is playing with me. I don't know if I should leave him or not Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): You're dating a guy who has strong feelings for you. He dosen't beat you, he gives you the support you need and you enjoy being with him. You live far apart and find it difficult to arrange quality time together. You've been together for 3 months and he is concerned that he may not love you enough because he's been used to being single.
I may be stupid or heartless cause I fail to see the problem. Your at the begining of a beautiful relationship with a wonderful guy. He's not sure about the relationship because he's been single for a long time and this is something new and different. It would be a bad idea to allow his "valid" concerns to panic you into giving up on this relationship.
You've only known him for 3 months, he does everything for you, he's honest with you. Chill out relax and get to know him. Of course it may not work out (and he is trying to point out where the difficulties may occur on his side) But you really are taking things far too seriously, far too quickly. Date have fun, get to know him and wait at least a year before you question the level of commitment and the possibility of a future with this man. Your young enough to spend a little time have good old fashioned fun with a man that obviously cares.
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