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female
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26-29,
*wesome girl
writes:Ok. One of my guy friends got a girlfriend last year, and I was like okay cool. Then he starts talking to me less and less, and I was like wtf why isn't he talking to me we talk all the time. I guess i started getting to me, because I totally changed my attitude around them. I'm usually really nice and I get along with everyone, but when it comes to them its like a different me. I try to ignore them or get along with one and not the other, but that was an epic failure. I told my friend V about it, and she said I might not like the girl b/c she took him away from me. Now sometimes he says hey and I don't know what to do, so I just wave slowly w/o a smile and walk away he often says that. I wonder if he knows that i thought of him as my best friend, and other times I want him to feel how I did about when he stopped talking to me. The last thing I want to say is that I'm not jealous, and that I don't care about them being together that has nothing to do w/ me. :) What do you think I should do about my problem? I really need some advice.
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reader, Lady in Love  +, writes (1 January 2013):
 the problem is not in you its in your friend, his girlfriend is the one who is jealous of you not the other way around. put your self in her shoes come on! your boyfriend talks regularly to some girl and he loves talking to her and shares more memories with her than with me.
the first month with my own boyfriend i had that problem, where he was very jealous of my male friends-that are many- and he wanted me to ditch them all.
her is where you and told you my new girl friend doesn't like our friendship, until i convince her i might be little cold with you.
my advise to you: -be as friendly as possible with the girlfriend no matter how much you dislike her, off-course if you want your friendship to survive.
try to take her side from the female approach,like ask her to go shopping with you saying that you love her taste in clothe, talk about your personal problems with her privatively-invent some if you don't trust her, in other worlds make her feel as the best friend to let you keep your best friend
finally, what ever is going on in your life, stay extra nice with every one specially those that hurt you because if your happy you will meet many friends that are much more worth it, yet if your sad focusing on one bad side you're only hurting your self
good luck
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