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female
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30-35,
*emmefemale
writes:I have a problem with being pursued by men/boys. I don't know what is wrong with me but I don't know how to let a man/boy pursue me and work for me and my attention. It causes problems because I always drive away the boys that I like because of my impatience and the lack of the "chase".I need tips or advice on things that work for you or things I might need to think about. thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, BiteMe  +, writes (1 April 2013):
 Since I'm a guy. I think it's fair to say that I personally hate the "chase". It's annoying and fake. I don't like girls who just wanna play games all the time, just be real, just be you. A worthy man will come along one day, trust me.
Don't change for anyone.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (1 April 2013):
 Playing the game invovles not calling the guy when you miss him. Asking him for help when you rather just do it yourself. Getting busy when you really want to be with him. Waiting for sex even when you are super horny. Be that dainty, delicate little flower needing to be protected. Only feel, and let him to the thinking, rescuing and fixing.
I think you know very well how to "behave" and get what you want, it's just that you don't want to fake and play politics. I don't believe we are supposed to be stuck in that rigid female and masculine role. We can make references based on what our cavemen ancestors did and understand our behavior, but we are more evolved, and forcing ourselves to accomodate to the opposite sex, in order to get a relationship is like taking steps back in our growth. If we can't be true to ourselves what's the point of being in a relationship, except to stimulate the economy. Just think of the many ways you will spend money in the name of relationships.
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reader, Lady in Love  +, writes (31 March 2013):
 from my own experience, men needs to feel your need to them, even if its for something silly like opening a can of juice or something!never compare a man with an exbe the kid out side, and the wild when your alone, and never under estimate the power of sexual talking, don't talk dirty, don't act dirty! just make them think dirty when your talking cleanbest wishes!
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