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writes:alright, so about a week ago, i broke up with my boyfriend of a year and four months. he is still insanely obsessed with me though! he calls me all the time, still tells me he loves me, and asks me to hang out with him constantly. it's like we never even broke up! anyhow, i've recently fallen for my next door neighbor, he's the sweetest guy i've ever met, and he likes me too. the problem is, i don't know how to get rid of my ex without hurting him. because i really want to be with the guy next door. i know he wouldn't cheat on me anyway, like my ex has in the past.
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reader, ILoveMusic +, writes (9 October 2008):
I have an ex like that. I broke up with him more than once because he couldn't understand that we were no longer togeather. He called me for over a year after that. I finally had explain to him why I'd broken up with him in the first place and that it was better for both of us that we don't stay friends. It's impossibe not to hurt his feelings, but you have to do it for the good of both of you. I haven't regreted my decision and you probably won't either. My ex is now sitting in prison for serious drug charges. I'm kind of glad to have gotten out of that.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (2 August 2008):
 Other people's answers were great, so I will give you some things to read that will help you in your situation:
http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Rid-of-an-Obsessive-Ex-Girlfriend
http://www.wikihow.com/Show-Your-Ex-You%27ve-Moved-On
Please read them so you find it easier on what to do. Hopefully the articles wil help you enough.
Good luck with this new guy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2008): I know you don't want to hurt his feelings but tbh even if you do it in the nicest way possible he'll still feel hurt.
I suggest you wait a while before dating the guy next door. This way your ex will have time to adapt.
Just tell him you just want to be friends and that you've fallen for somebody else and that you aren't seeing each other anymore so he doesn't need to consistently call you or meet you.
I hope that doesn't sound too harsh and that it helps...
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (1 August 2008):
Unfortunately you have dumped this guy. There is no way you can do it without hurting him.
Stop taking his calls. Tell him you can't hang out with him. If he says he loves you then just say "I'm sorry I don't love you, that's why I can't be with you."
Be straight with him. you are going to hurt him more if you hang out, give him any hint that you might still have feelings, or anything like that.
You have to hurt him so he'll go away, get over you, and then meet the girl of his dreams.
Plus you can get with your neighbour.
Good Luck!! xx
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