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writes: Im 16 and my boyfreind was 18 we were together for a year and 2 monthes but it was quickly ended in one fight. we've argued before and this wasnt even the worst. that night another girl instantly falls in love out of nowhere and wants to spend the rest of her life with him, maybe he hasn't missed me yet. i no he loved me or still loves me, but i cant beg him to come back to me.we were so close and were with eachother everyday for the past year, i cant just throw this away, but it seems theres nothing i can do. i cant wait any longer and i will never got over him. im so lonely and depressed. Also, that same night he got arrested for having a party at his house. everything happens for a reason, maybe this is when he'll wake up. i dont no how to move on it doesn't seem like im strong enough. ill see him everywhere i go and would have trouble dating because he was everything that i ever wanted.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2006): You are still very young and have a long way to go in life. Thru life you will meet so many others who will love and cherish you more than he does. Look at this as a passing phase or a learning phase. You are growing up hence learning about people and their behaviour. You are hurt now and I understand the pain but one day you will get up and realise its not worth hurting over somone who tosses you out and has the audacity to tell you that someone has fallen in love with him overnight. You deserve more respect than that. Do stuff to occupy your mind and before you know it you will be out of it. There are lots of people out there to meet so get to it rather than moping on this one. This type of guy is not worth crying about and the guys who are worth it won make you cry.
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reader, shortandsweet408 +, writes (23 January 2006):
 Oh yeah, go shopping with your girlfriends
(even if you can't afford it :)
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reader, shortandsweet408 +, writes (23 January 2006):
You have gotten a lot of good advice! I'm just going to give my input. I have to say, I went through the EXACT same thing in high school... I was 17. You need to cry and let it out and know that its over (expecially since there is another girl involved) I was with my ex for 2 years and he left me for his now wife and mother of his baby. (He too was two years older than me) I will give you my PROMISE that you will get over him. You are 16! You need to get out and party with your friends and workout and look hot and be your fabulous self! You put your all into a relationship and there is NOTHING wrong with that. You were a more than perfect girlfriend to someone who didn't realize it. Get yourself together now and realize that life is too short to spend mourning over a loss of a GUY. There are so many more out there, you have two years of high school left, you two weren't married, didn't live together and (thank GOD) had no kids... so you have NO TIES to this loser. Now, all you have to do (if you ever see him again) is smile and remember the good times you two had but remember that he is gone for a reason. So he dumped you? Now you need to dump HIM. Just think about it... if you let him go and he comes crawling back YOU are in control - I bet you'll be over him then! And if he doesn't come back just know that God didn't want you to SUFFER from him anymore!
Time heals everything... trust me honey
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reader, Carver +, writes (23 January 2006):
Your riht dont beg for him back but if he means that much to him then tell him. Let him know he means nearly the world to you if you do that there may be a chance that he'll see what a idiot he's been. It worked for me when me and my girl friend has a tiff. So give it a try. Hope it works xx
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reader, miss helpfull +, writes (23 January 2006):
hi i have been in the same situation not so long ago hunni. my boyfriend was with me a year and we spend everyday together ha was my best friend and my soul mate. he told me on boxing day he didnt love me anymore and walked out my life. he has nowgone back to his ex girlfriend. i miss him so much. i didnt get out of bed 4 a week i lost a stone in weight and everytime i looked round my house i would cry i thought i was going to die inside i was put on anti-depressions but every1 said it gets better with time and i said no it wont i never b over him but 5 weeks later im ok i got thought it iv put the weight back on and im seeing someone else. of course i still think of my ex and i miss him everyday but i have learnt from it and believe me you never stop loving you first love i promise you it will get easier with time. remember let him go if it was meant to be he will come back to you if not then just be thankful you had the times you had!!! good luck xxxx
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reader, brokenhearted +, writes (23 January 2006):
HiI do know what your going through, I loved my bf so much, he really was my world, we'd been going out for 3 years when he cheated on me, I have to say I was devasted! I cried and cried and cried spme more. I didn't want to see anyone. I locked myself in my room and couldn't eat for weeks! I was so lonely and so depressed!My friends all said to move on, to get over it, that i was too young for anything serious and that he obviously didn't care! I did continue thinking that he did care, afterall how can someone who you believed loved you just let you go like that!!??It took me over 2 months to get myself remotely together, I'd lost over a stone, I'd missed out on so much college that I failed my exams, I also missed out on my friends lives as I had completely blocked out everything bar him and us!!!During this period he never rung, i'd ring him and occassionally he'd answer. I found out since that he has a new gf....it just goes to show that while I was putting my life on hold, completely on hold for him that he didn't care a bit and was out enjoying himself and not even thinking about me although he knew i was taking it badly!!!I used to think that he still loved me but that isn't love!! really try and move on with life! I know its easier said than done, trust me I'm a prime example but the only person in control of your happiness is you!! You are allowing yourself to feel miserable!You are a good caring decent loving person. You do not deserve to feel this way but it is you that has control over how you feel! You do not need him, you just need you to be strong right now! Just remember you are complete on your own! You can control your own happiness!! Maybe instead of dwelling on what you've lost, be grateful that you felt that kind of love, be grateful because not many ppl do. dont think of it as losing someone, wasn't it nice to have had that closeness in the first place! And really time does heal all wounds! I'm not saying I don't still love my bf but I don't cry about it anymore, I don't get emotional when our song comes on the radio etc.... it really does get better!
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (23 January 2006):
 I am sorry for your pain. To lose somebody so obviously special to you and the hopes and dreams that are tied to them is a hard thing. First you have to believe in yourself. Yes it hurts now and may for a little time yet but it will get better. It sounds so cliched I know but it is true.
Right now you need to focus on yourself and try and do things that make you happy or if not happy right now then happier. He may come back but then again he may not so you have to be prepared for that possibility. You are 16. You have alot of life left ahead of you and plenty of happiness yet to come.
You say that you are lonely but I wonder if you have a friend who will listern to you and be there for you. If not then try a family member you trust. Open up to them and maybe try and go out a little with them if you feel up to it. Don't isolate yourself. Alot of people have felt a similar pain to yourself and there are alot of people willing to listern, talk and help in any way they can. Hope you feel better soon. Take care :).
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