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writes:So I started talking to this girl on and off after meeting her at a rave, but the conversations were just mutual and friendly, like to hang out soon. So after a while I haven't heard from her and we met again at a rave and everything changed. We started talking about personal issues and stuff and we just started having fun and dancing and the whole time we were together and we kissed and made out. The next day we talk and make a date. But my only concern is that I really like this girl, but in 2 weeks she's leaving Europe for 3 months. I don't if I should start a long distance relationship, because I fear boredom with no physical contact is just gonna kill attraction or do I begin a relationship and hopefully keep it going? Has anyone been in this situation before and if so can you give me advice? ThanksBtw were still getting to know each other.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (24 July 2012):
 Is there any reason you can't simply keep contact with her and date her properly when she returns? Make no promises and expect no commitments and just enjoy her company when she is back in town.
Good luck!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 July 2012):
 Ok so you met her
You like her
She likes you
She’s going to be gone for 3 months (that’s not a lot of time)
You can stay in touch via email and skype….
As for the fearing boredom without physical contact…part of a real relationship is knowing how to related to a person without physical contact….
While I would not say have a committed relationship at this point, I would use this time to get to know her better…
and when she gets back you two can figure out what to do then.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (24 July 2012):
Having done them before, I would dissuade you from a LD relationship for any significant amount of time. When I did it, I was working on Wall St so I had a lot of disposible income to travel on whenever I wanted. It was also cool to be visiting this different city every few weeks. It was also cool that it was like brand new whenever we saw each other. That said, it all gets old within 3-12 months, at which point a decision will have to be made.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (24 July 2012):
 Leaving for 3 months is a lot different than moving to Europe to go to college or moving there permanently. I say you just see what develops. There is no harm in getting to know her and if it develops into something more, you can make it work for 3 months. But, it also depends on what you really want. If you really like this girl and want it to work, that is going to help the situation. If you don't like her too well, then you are going to get bored anyway. Just see what happens and don't make any definite plans.
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reader, Deagan +, writes (24 July 2012):
 Quite honestly, she's leaving for another country soon, she isn't going to make time to have a long distance relationship with someone she just met!
It would be an entirely different situation if you two were dating for a few years, your relationship would be strong enough to withstand the distance.
At this point, starting a long distance relationship when she is about to leave for several months is a lost cause.
The first few months of dating someone new is about getting to know the person. Considering you two just started talking, she has no hold in you and you don't have a hold on her. You two are strangers, if you really think about. So why would she spend the time and effort on a stranger? Think logically here. The different timezones will not make it easy. She will be eating breakfast when you are going to bed. She probably isn't interested in having to pay roaming charges or using prepaid cards to keep in touch. It costs money to use the Internet at Internet cafes to send you an email. She's going to be focusing on her trip! So give her that chance to experience it fully.
And who knows, maybe in the fall you'll run into each other at the night club again?
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