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writes:Hi, I am in a relationship with a guy for more than five yrs now I am not married yet.... We fight often now he gets angry on me for silly reasons shouts at me in vulgar language calls me slut ...he has even beaten me several times and I havent complained it to anybody yet . .....Recently I forgot to pick his laptop from his car and forgot to iron his shirt he started shouting at me at 12 clock midnight and I kept quiet but when I couldnt take any longer I told him its enough and he started again calling me slut insults me criticised me ....i have not shared any of it to anybody coz I fear it will ruin his reputation and bring harm to him....i know I made mistake by forgetting but should I just keep quiet when he insults me I am a human being and hurts my heart when the person whom I love says nasty things about me...i am totally confused coz I have no more strength to bear all this more and I had enough .... Please somebody help me please ... Should I continue or end it .... Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Abella  +, writes (18 January 2013):
 I think you should most definitely finish this relationship.
Without even discussing it with him.
He is abusive and he has gone too far and you can do far better than him.
Remove all your things when he is at work.
BUT before you leave talk things over with the good people on these sites:www.befrienders.org
and http://www.hotpeachpages.net/asia/asia1.html#India
for Abuse Support in India
No woman should have to suffer such a nasty man.His family no doubt know what a nasty mean control freak he is. You are right to want to leave this relationship. For better things in the future.
Talk to the support people at the two sites above before you formulate a plan to leave him safely for a better life elsewhere - where you are not abused and where you can find work and meet nicer people than him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2013): yes I agree with CMMP. next time he fights, make a scene out of it, where a whole lot of people will know about it... and move out.
either you can try for couples counselling, but imagine being married to that man, and make your decision. Nothing bad has happened yet, there is a lot of options still open for you, so try not to think this is the end of the world.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (18 January 2013):
Who in the world would tell you to stay with a guy that hurts you and treats you like shit?
You don't love him by the way, that feeling you feel is absolutely not love, even if that's what it feels like. You need to get away from him with WITNESSES there when you pick up your things. Move in with a friend or parents but do it as soon as possible.
Leave a note telling him that the two of you are through and that nothing he could say or do would change that. Tell him you don't want to contact him or see him ever again.
Men like that have a strange power over the women they abuse. I'd recommend blocking his number and his Facebook so that he can't claw his way back into your life.
It'll be hard but you can do it.
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