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36-40,
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writes:Hi all, just looking for a bit of advice from a male and female perspective. About a month ago, I started dating a guy from work. We get on very well, have same sense of humour and he's the first guy I've wanted to date since a bad break up 18 months ago. My issue is, that I always seem to pick the same kind of blokes! They're always lovely and funny but generally VERY laid back. The guy I'm seeing at the moment generally messages me every day and seems keen. He has also told me that he likes me but is too laid back sometimes with this kind of thing. We are both 25, so not extremely young but he goes out with his mates most weekends as they are all single. A lot of my friends are settled so I don't do that scene as much. We have only been out twice in a month and I don't know if it's enough. I don't want to rush things, and I also like my space, but I just don't get why we're not seeing more of each other!! Also sometimes he'll wait hours before texting back, not that I mind that so much but I can't help but read into it due to past experiences with boys letting me down. Any advice would be great, thanks!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (12 March 2013):
 You are seeing each other only twice a month. I won't even call that dating. You are only hanging out. You say you don't want to rush things, but honestly there is no thing. When you see each other so little you don't get to connect at a level that will lead to deeper meaning. Laid back is basically a euphenism for laziness or disinterest. I am sure he is not laid back when it comes to activities with his mates. He has a certain loyalty to his mates that a serious relationship with a girlfriend will end up with him being called whipped, or a wuss. They even have a bros before hoes code.
There are also other possibilities like he doesn't date coworkers, or he is still waiting for the perfect woman.
When someone says "I like you but," that means he's a waste of time. "But, I like you" then that's better.
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