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writes:Do I have a problem? Ever since I was a little girl I innocently (no sexual just like little kid imagining) fantasized being submissive. And I still do, I've never told anyone this. It's not because I am ashamed but because It's really personal and not average I guess. As I have gotten older I see that I really am a submissive but strong person. I am really strong but I can cry over the littlest thing. I wouldn't say over emotional just I wear my heart on my sleeve. I am really friendly but I also am protective of those who I love. I don't get why I have these weird fantasy's of being submissive to someone. Am I normal?? Whenever I have sex with my boyfriend I can't be on top we tried and it does not work for me. I like him on top a lot better. Please don't shut me down, i've never told anyone this before and I just hope i'm not sick in the head or something.:( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): You are not sick at all! I think you are normal. And I can relate to a lot of what you said.
To be perfectly honest, I prefer to be submissive too. The idea of taking charge or being dominant in any kind of situation just isn't me. Same with sexual situations, I struggle to be more dominant, and prefer for the guy to take control. I guess I'm just scratching the surface here, but sometimes I have worried and wondered whether I am normal, or whether I am "wrong" somehow.
But now I think that we each have our own preferences, our own dreams and desires, and that is okay. There is no "normal" really, only what is right for us. I do hope you feel a little more reassured and less alone about this, and if you'd ever like to talk at all you can PM me. :-) x
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (18 February 2010):
You're perfectly normal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): it's definitely not a problem =] that's why there's subs and doms, personally i'm both... whenever you think you're weird for whatever reason, just remember you're NOT the only one who thinks that way or has that problem with whatever... whatever it is.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (18 February 2010):
 Nope, you're not sick in the slightest. You know what you like. You're willing to experiment with other things, but you know what works for you. You're a strong person, but you like to feel a little submissive. That's perfectly fine and healthy. Just don't let anyone COMPLETELY control you or rob you of your strength.
Funny thing is, you can still be strong yet sub. You can ask for what you want even if you're not in control when it happens. You just need a gentle and caring boyfriend that won't abuse the privilege. The moment he starts to take advantage of you (not saying that he will), please hold onto that strength of yours and stand up for yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): You are normal. There is nothing to worry about that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): I think it's completely normal! I fantasise about being submissive too. I don't know why, but I really like it too. Some people like being submissive, some like to dominate a little and some don't care either way. Nothing wrong with any of it!
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