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writes: I am dating a man.. at first he was very hot and heavy with me .. wanting to be with me all the time.... he now seems too busy working and doing projects with his friends and keeps saying he is too busy but would like to see me...on occasion..once a week.. i feel it is more for the fact he will have dinner at my house and a booty call...if it is going to be like that.i dont want .. it....it hurts me... but.... i feel he isnt into me... am i right ?? i tried asking him what he wanted and he just said it was up to me... and that he felt he wasnt meeting my needs... all i want is a person who will communicate to me what they want and spend a few days a week with me without having to have to pry the time out of him or begging for it...
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reader, Your big sis +, writes (27 January 2006):
 If you had sex with him and this is the result, I'm sorry to say honey but you got used. If you did not have sex and wish to wait for that special moment, then he realized that he's not going to get sex without getting involved. Either way, his reaction to you now isn't a good sign. So yes, you are right. He's not you. He's only after his own selfish intentions. Don't worry, he's the loser cause you sound like a wonderful person. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2006): Get rid of him now. Sorry but when someone is into you they want to see you more than once a week. You've told him your insecurities and he's still acting non-plussed...saying, "it's up to you" isn't good enough, is that what you want from a man! Get rid of him, work on your self esteem and move onto someone who makes you feel appreciated and wanted, you deserve much better than this, deep down I suspect you know this! Guys like him just drag you and your self esteem down!...Good luck! :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2006): This can be a tricky situation but my experience and that of my friends is that once you feel you are getting the run around, you probably are. Yes, men and women do have to work and have other commitments but not every night and they will find the time when they want.If you are happy with one night a week, fine and some people are. But if you want more, I think you need to say that one night a week is not enough, you don't feel like you are giving each other enough attention and unless you and him work out a plan to spend more time together, you will have to end it.There is no use you feeling ignored and feeling like a booty call. Forget it and move on unless he is willing to compromise more. Obviously he can't spend every waking moment with you but there has to be a happy balance and it sounds like he is not willing to strike that with you.
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