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writes:Things with my bf have been Rocky for a while. We've been together nearly 4 years. We hardly sleep together, we never go to restaurants, we argue alot but when I've suggested we break up he gets teapot upset and says things like without you I will be a mess. You're my life. You're everything to me. I feel like it's guilt tripping me. He moans alot about everything I do and I find this very annoying as I've always been very attentive. I cook every meal, i clean and make alot of effort. Recently I went out for a drive with someone who I am his client of. There was a lot of chemistry for a while between us and we talk about the struggles of relationships with the wrong people. So on Friday we met again and it ended in sex. I felt bad after but I didn't regret it. I felt alive. My bf refuses to break up although he has no idea about me cheating. With the other man I felt so connected. We share alot of interests and he is so affectionate and sweet. What do I do ? I couldn't stand to see my bf hurt but I feel like I have been pushed to seek affection elsewhere. I never planned to cheat, i never thought about it before. Reply to this Question
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reader, N91 +, writes (29 August 2018):
 I’m with the other posters.
How can your BF refuse to break up? You say you’re over then you leave, done. How hard is that?
You were pushed to it? Did someone have a gun to your head? Stop trying to justify it. You decided to cheat, end of. The whole my BF won’t let me break up with him is garbage. You don’t want to hurt him then go and cheat on him? You see how that’s pretty hard to believe?
Just leave the guy, you’re obviously on complete different wavelengths.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (29 August 2018):
 Newsflash: YOU can break up the relationship. It does not need your boyfriend's consent or agreement. If YOU are not happy, then YOU need to end things.
Regardless of how bad things are between you and your boyfriend, it NEVER justifies cheating.
Finish with your boyfriend before he finds out you are a cheat because THAT will REALLY hurt him.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (29 August 2018):
 Bullshit, OP
Your BF can not REFUSE to break up. That's ridiculous.
You END it with your BF whether he likes it or not. THEN you can go about screwing whomever you like!
You ALREADY hurt your BF, he just doesn't know it yet...
Be a decent person and break up. Tell him it's been rocky for a long time and you have had enough. Whether you tell him you cheated it up to you. But DO grow a spine.
And remember, what goes around comes around...
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 August 2018):
 What an excuse, nobody is ever pushed by someone else to cheat, that was your decision and your choice, and you are the one that cheated! If you wanted out off the relationship then you end it, just because your boyfriend doesn't agree does not mean that you need to stay with him and be unfaithful. You cannot stand to see your boyfriend hurt? Where you thinking about that when you had your legs wrapped around some other bloke? Do the decent thing and end the relationship before you end up breaking your boyfriend down to the point he will never be able to trust anyone in a relationship again.
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