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writes: I am feeling very alone and unappreciated in my relationship to the point that I am considering breaking up with my boyfriend. We are currently in a long distance relationship but decided we must live in the save city again because we are so in love. We decided that I would try (as long as I am accepted into a nursing program out there) to move back and we would live together. However, I have been doing everything possible to get into a school program there which has completely changed my plans. I have no life, I study and work and barely sleep. And, I gave up a professional job that I could have gone back to this summer in order to be financially stable. I am doing all of this so that I could take classes required for only a school out there (but not for any other school). I know have no time, never see my friends and am accumulating debt in order to move there. He never acknowledged this, went on a two week European vacation that he didn't invite me on, and was too cheap to call me for more than five minutes from his vacation. I went to visit him after he came back, taking time off from work and he didn't do anything special for me to acknowledge what I am doing (and it was even my birthday). I know he is aware that I am struggling (financially, emotionally, socially) in order to be with him because I finally explained it all to him but he just pushes himself farther away from me when I complain or tell him I'm feeling unappreciated. I'm just so frustrated to the point that I don't feel as in love with him anymore and I feel like he is so insensitive that I almost want to end the relationship. But I keep thinking about how in love we were at first and how much we had and how lucky we felt to be together. I miss the boyfriend I used to have.... Anyone have any advice?
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reader, shania  +, writes (7 July 2006):
 It sounds to me like you are doing all the sacrificing while his lifestyle hasn't changed at all.If your boyfriend isn't appreciating you,then he needs a good wake up call.Why put yourself in debt?....while he swans off to Europe for a couple of weeks...leaving you on your own?...charming! This man is selfish and is not making any real effort to meet you half way?....What has he done for you?...If its been take take take on his part then i think you really need to think what you are getting out of this relationship.Its so easy to think of the past when everything was so rosey but things have changed and your not happy.In a loving relationship its all about compromise but im afraid its lacking with your boyfriend.You need to sit him down and put the cards on the table...tell him how you feel and that you cant go on like this...if he just shrugs things off...and doesn't seem to bothered then im afraid you have got your answer.
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