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writes: Hi AllI really like this girl. I have been getting some great advice from here on how to ask her out as I think she likes me and I know I like her. But I don’t know what to do. I mean, I don’t think I should wine and dine her straight away - that’s crazy, but should we do something as a group of friends e.g. go to the cinema so she doesn’t feel uncomfortable if it was just us two? As I have just finished my exams and our school is off for the summer I won't see her 5 days a week so this makes it harder for me to see her as often which means it could be a bad time to start a relationship.What do you think???RegardsMr Z
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2006): oh rite. well i guess that gives you less time. again, good luck xx
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reader, Mr Z +, writes (8 July 2006):
Mr Z is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHimissaqua777 we do go to the same school and now that we are off i wont see her all the time, i mean she goes to france in 9 days or sumthin and i am away most of the summer in florida!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2006): The best thing to do is make it a casual date. You may feel like making the first date more romantic and stuff if you really like her, but i think something like hanging out for a few hours in the local park would be really effective. Then you could ask her what she wants to do next if you wanted to. Make sure it's balanced, not too ott, but not too unstimulated either. By the way i know you said you find it hard to see her five days a week, but is she in the same school as you? i wasn't totally clear on that. Anyway if my suggestion wasn't what you were looking for, sorry and good luck anyway xx
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (8 July 2006):
 Hi Mr Z,
You could try inviting her to a public place where you'll happen to be, so that you can see her without the pressure of being the only entertainment for your whole date. Something like meeting at a local swimming pool strikes me as a fun date where you can spend as much time together as you like, without stressing too much.
Or ask her if she'd like to watch a sports match with you (being there, I mean, not just on TV).
Obviously I don't know what sorts of entertainment are around in your community, but if you're shy about it being one-on-one, then an invitation to a party or a barbeque where you're going to be is a great starting date.
No, you definitely don't have to "wine and dine" her, and in fact, if you're still in school then it's probably a bit over the top. You don't need to sweep her off her feet with diamonds and mink coats! Just be good company and fun to be with. That's all that any girl expects.
As far as starting a relationship when school's out, well, take things a stage at a time. Maybe you can meet midway between your homes when you want to see each other, and there's always text, IM and the phone for staying in touch. Before you know it (sorry to say) school will be back in session, so don't worry about not seeing her. If it all works out, you two will find some way to spend time together.
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