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writes:I live in a block of flats and have a neighbour who has liked me for a long time, i agreed to go out with him as a friend but told him it was nothing more. we ended up kissing at the end of the night and did spend a bit of time together after that, even though ive told him we are just friends he keeps asking whats wrong with him and why i wont give the 2 of us a chance. the truth is i just dont fancy him but he can be a good laugh and i did enjoy spending time with him until i found out he had told everyone he works with that im his girlfriend, ive been avoiding him since then but i know ill bump into him soon and i feel bad avoiding his texts. i do miss him tho but im worried that by spending time with him hes getting the wrong idea and i dont like the questions he asks about the two of us. Ive tryed talking to him and he says hes accepted that we are just friends but its hard to believe. should i contact him or try and avoid him to spare his feelings?
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (16 April 2008):
 well in all fairness - you went out with him on a 'date' thing, you kissed him, and you spent time with him after. you have to think about the fact that you may have led him on. i know you have been telling him that you only wanna be just friends, but your telling him one thing and doing another. you have given this guy mixed signals and you need to stop. its up to you whether you should be friends with him or not, but you have to know that it may not be the best idea if this guy has strong feelings for you. talk to him and set the record straight, letting him know that while you like him as a friends, it will never be anything more and its never going to happen. you may have to be harsh but if its gone this far then it may be wat he needs. if he doesnt get the idea, then move on, leave him to it and ignore the childish fantasies that he is sharing with his co workers.
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reader, daniellexxxx +, writes (16 April 2008):
 Talk to him as a friend dont ignore him as thats not nice. He got the wrong idea as you did kiss him and now your paying for it. It's not excuse for him to tell people that your his girlfriend you must mean a lot to him. When he mentions the two of us again just say there is no us were mates and thats it.
Good luck.
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