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36-40,
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writes:I'm so angry at the person I am right now. Any and every girl that approach me, I have little to no interest in them. I find the unattractive and boring. Yet, when I approach a girl that I like, I always get shot down. It's just not fair (I know it's CLICHE). I Don't ever see myself entering a relationship with any of the girls that likes me.I' ve only had one girlfriend but that because I honestly had.a deep attraction to her as well as vise versa. That was two years ago and I still haven't found anyone who wants me the same way I want them. I Also feel bad as well ad angry when girls that I have no interest in flirts with me. The only thing I find them useful for is sex and I know that's not right so I never pursue them. I'm just lppking for love and I can never seem to find it. Before you eay "Give them a chance. Feelings might change". I have given girls a chance and the only thing that I felt was a strong friendship with them. I never felt any passion for them. So I know that will never work. It's just a waste of time.Where can a guy like me go? Also, I apologize for the horrendous grammar mistakes. I have big fingers. Small phone. No back space button.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (3 August 2012):
I think I am in a similar situation with you. I've realized that giving girls a chance, depending on their personality, can have very bad results if you eventually do not develop feelings for them. My views are different though in terms of what is attracts me to a girl.
I don't really have any idea about the girls. But if your life is this upside down then I'm sure there is a lot of conflict in your lifestyle/soul/mind. Perhaps there are things you can do to uplift your mind and find attraction in girls where previously there wasn't. Things like reading, hobbies, sports and what not, generally strengthen your mind. What about the past? Have you really let go of that relationship? Sometimes we give ourselves unrealistic expectations in people because of our past. These unrealistic expectations serve to prove us right that "no one can compare"...basically lies to keep us being miserable because we know it so well. I could obviously be wrong, but it's important for you to find what is really the problem.
There's no real rush anyway, just take your time and be normal. At least you aren't taking advantage of these girls. Sometimes the simplest thing that needs to be done is to wait and hopefully someone comes along.
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