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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:hey guys,I've been having sex for about a year now. I've only ever came twice. it really gets to me. i dont know how to enjoy sex. Sometimes i do but its never that good. i just lose interest so quickly. I'm the person who rolls over and goes to sleep right after! it really gets me down. it gets me to the point where i dont see the point in doing it at all because i dont enjoy it. i want to very much though. i dnt no what i can do. i want to please him and make him happy. i really really want to enjoy it! i look at him sometimes and i want him but my body wont respond. i dnt get wet or horny i dnt feel that passion. Its really upsetting me.i dont want to be the person who cant come or cant do anything. ive waited so long for this! I cant even make myself come. i cant enjoy it myself never mind with my boyfriend. ive tried toys too n it just wont work.
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reader, Felina  +, writes (18 November 2008):
 Hi there.I think you worry so much it gets even worse.I believe sex is much more psychological than physical...I think you should explore with him your fantasies,talk about them and imagine them happening.Maybe watching some porn together may help.Dont worry.I think every woman have times like that....But if you stop worrying and just let yourself relax,everything will be ok.You know,some masturbation will relax you,and maybe will awake the hot dirty side of you...Hope this will help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2008): honey.. dont stress over this. i was in a similiar position. And a good friend gave me this advice - if you dont know what turns u on, you cant enjoy sex. Simple. You said u cant make urself cum. Relax. Do something that makes u relax, a bath, candles, nice music, and just slowly, slowly explore your body. Dont think about cumming, just enjoy the feelings. It might take a few sessions, but you WILL start to realise what feels good. Seriously. This worked for me, and once i knew what was good for me, i told my boyf and never looked back!!!! If ur not willing to go solo, talk to ur man, and do it 2gether.. if hes understanding and sensitive to your situation as it stands. Good luck!!!! And please dont worry - this is perfectly normal!!
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