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writes:I really love my boyfriend. And he really loves me. But he is more experienced than me. He is used to sex, and I'm not ready for that step. He is a good guy and understands that, but some days it is harder for him to not have more. I don't do oral, and I get embarrassed. But are there any more exciting alternatives, or ways to spice things up so that I can help him more without giving in to sex? Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (12 March 2008):
Oral isn't that bad if he's all clean down there.
You don't have to swallow, you can alternate with doing stuff by hand, or make him wear a condom (safer option anyway if he hasn't had an STD test) so you don't get scared he's going to come in your mouth.
Tell him to keep his hands away from your head so you know you are in control of how deep.
Alternatively if you want to avoid the whole thing, (which to be honest I do when I can) then hand jobs are the way forward. Use lubricant or not experiment with technique and most of all ENJOY IT. Giggle, smile tease him, let him see you with your top off when you do it so your boobs jiggle a bit.
The main turn on for him is that it is his gorgeous girl who is doing it to him.
Don't be pressured into going further than you want to. Stay in control of your body at all times and that way you will relax more, get more comfy and trust him to go further when you feel the time is right.
Have Fun!! x
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (11 March 2008):
 Hi there,
I would doubt he is as experienced as he makes himself out to be ( its the oldest trick in the book mate )
But this is not addressing your problem. What are you prepared to do? I ask this as your options are limited if you don't do oral - and I'm not saying there is anything wrong with this. But if you are past just simple petting and you won't do sex, then you need to get him off some other way. And the only way to do this is through a handjob. It's pretty easy and guys love it. Get a tube of Ky Jelly or any lubricant pour some over your hands and then grab his dick. Using a circular motion work your hands up and down his erect shaft massaging the head while you are doing it, he will cum this way and be satisfied.
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