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writes:Dear all,These days, after having lots of problems, Suddenly I feel that I don't deserve any love and those people who have left me for someone else, I think they have done the right thing. It has been 4 times that I have been left by my ex-boyfriends for other girls. I'm a good girl, smart, good attitude, pretty, easy going and down to earth. I'm so patient, I have lots of good qualities. But, why those men left me for girls that were not even as good as me? And the most disturbing things, all of them, they tried to contact me after hurting my feelings, to give impressions that they felt guilty. One of them even has tried to contact me for more than 12 times, even though, I have changed my phone number (I found it after last month I activate the old one).This even made my feeling worse than before.After one year without a job (since last year Europe is still on big crisis, especially job crisis). I don't have any self confidence. No good at job, No good at work. What should I do to throw these bad thoughts away?
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reader, Neboraic  +, writes (15 February 2010):
Those guys may have left you, but some tried to get back with you, you must be doing something right, guys typically dont chase girls theyve left.
As for the job thing, fill the work void, either with something creative, or some voluntary work. Confidence and happiness come with a days work, wherther you are paid for it or not, the most soul destroying thing is to have nothing to do, something i have plenty of experience with. Thats one reason why i do this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2010): Every girl will find her perfect match, but in the meantime you may come across boys that truely are a waste of time. In your case i think you should try enjoying being single, go out and maybe even chat up all those good looking boys. completely ignore thos other boys before, they are not doing you any good. Try to focus on your work more than boys. Try talking to friends about it. good luck
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