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writes:Hey everyone,Well the problem I need help here with is that my step dad is going in to hospital on Monday to have his leg amputated and the thing is I'm just not sympathetic at all! I wouldn't wish it on anybody but he was told numerous amount of times to give up smoking and cut down his drinking as it was clogging the arteries in his leg he has had so many operations it's unbelievable but he still carried on with the heavy smoking and drinking and he thought he'd be fine!Anyway my mom is absolutely gutted she'll have to give up her job to care for him she will get some help but the majority of the time she will be doing the caring.She wants me to stay with her next week when he is in hospital for a few weeks! (I live with my dad)Well the thing is as much as I love my mom I just cant pretend I'm sorry or that I don't think he deserves this because I'm not sorry, I'm not sorry at all.I hate this man!He used to beat my mom in front of me he physically and emotionally abuses her, he kicked me out, he's an alcoholic and an awful father to his own kids!My mom wants me to be there for her but our relationship is hard she's not like a mother to me any more, she doesn't know me.I want to be there for her, but how can I?I'm not going to pretend I care for him.
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reader, sarcy24 +, writes (6 January 2011):
 I wouldn't want to be with him either nor would I care but my conscience of right and wrong would get the better of me. Even if you feel nothing I think you should be there for your Mum if only for a week, just to give her some support when he comes out of hospital. This is going to be a very difficult time as this man is going to feel very depressed when he comes out. I am sure he feels very guilty about his behaviour and never thought it would come to him actually losing his leg so it must be a very sobering time. I would think he will also be in a lot of pain whch probably will make him even more miserable. I would set your mind to going for a week just to help out and for support and then you have done the right thing and can go back home knowing you behaved properly.
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reader, cat lady  +, writes (6 January 2011):
 Can you imagine losing your leg, girl? That man may have behaved like the devil's own but that's not the same one who'll be coming back from hospital. I think what's really bothering you is your own better nature that wants to show mercy to the afflicted, no matter what they did. Where do you think mercy comes from? Did you invent it? And yet, it's there and it's giving you a bad time. You stand now at that proverbial fork in the road and whilst you have every reason and right to be unhappy about it, you know quite well what you're going to do - don't you? Give it a try.
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