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*ayinah
writes:im a slim light skinned girl,and everyone comments on how pretty i am but although i know they arent lying i myself dont believe i am.my boyfriend also says that im gorgeous and pretty but i still dont fink i am.is there somethibg wrong with me? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sophia_Sweetheart  +, writes (16 June 2008):
 Oh honey, I can't tell you how many times women must go through feelings like that! You are so normal, I cannot even put it into words. It's a horrible feeling, when you're looking at the media around you and trying to achieve this 'perfect' body and face. It's simply not possible! Now I'm sure your friends and boyfriend are right, you're a nice looking girl with no real flaws. Of course, everyone can pick faults with themselves. It's just getting the confidence in yourself! I used to feel very down about myself, and compared myself to EVERYONE that I saw! But you've got to take yourself out of that frame of mind. It takes time, but think of all the good things about yourself. You know the days when your hair goes all wrong and you get grumpy? Well instead, concentrate on the days where your hair goes right, just the way you'd like it. If you find it makes you feel a little more confident, maybe invest in an eyeshadow or new lipgloss - sometimes even knowing we've made an effort makes us feel better. But you're normal, everyone (especially us girls) feels it at some point, and in time you'll learn to love yourself for who you are. Good luck!
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reader, kenny +, writes (16 June 2008):
 I think that you just need to work on building your confidence and selfesteem abit. Believe people when they tell you that you are georgeous and pretty and really take it on board. Look in the mirror and really love yourself, tell yourself that you are beautiful, and keep repeating it until you start to believe its true.
Maybe you could try a Paul Mckenna hypnosis CD for confidence and self esteem. They are really good and take you into a relaxing mediative state and after you feel relaxed uplifted refreshed and confident.
All the best x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2008): It's not particularly attractive to say "fink" rather than "think", but apart from that, ones perception of oneself is nearly always on the negative side. You perhaps see your faults whereas others see your good qualities. Believe them if they say you're pretty to look at, but bear in mind that real beauty comes from within as well.
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reader, peaches83 +, writes (16 June 2008):
 No not at all you just have very little confidence in yourself.
Think about the things that you think may be wrong with yourself and address the problems.
Trust the people that say you are pretty and learn to love yourself for who you are.
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