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writes:Im 19 and have been in a relationship for 5 years, i do love my boyfriend but he doesn't get on with my family or friends and im not sure about us anymore. I feel that im so young and havn't really lived! My best friend who i do everything with has just moved to America and we have always planned it together but i havn't gone because of him. I do really want to go but dont want to break his heart. Should i go or stay???
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reader, curious-borg  +, writes (14 April 2011):
Dont stay for his well being you will grow to resent and hate him.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (11 July 2007):
Do whats best for YOU. Do what YOU want. Don't think about his feelings, because in the end, if you stay with him, for the sake of not hurting him, you will only be hurting him in the long run. It's ok to break up with someone and to 'break their heart', they will move on. I know its hard, but its something you have to do.
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reader, pen. +, writes (11 July 2007):
pen. is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Love-him, Brainache and Kit e Kat for your replys. You all make very good points. I just dont want to look back in 10 years and think i never lived! We have grown up together and i respect him and love him and he does feel the same way. Hes very clingey and gets jealous alot and i think he needs me alot more than i need him! Hes says he will do anything to keep me here. I also dont want to look back and realise i gave up on the one person who loved me unconditionally and by then it will be too late! I always try and see it the other way around if it was me, if i wasnt enough for him, how would i feel??I also think that i look at it like that as i dont know any better, ive grown from a girl to a women with him and in some ways out-grown him as he is still quite immatureBut i suppose i cant live my life that way i have to take risks and just see what life brings!! xxxx Mail me back please if you like xxxx
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reader, kit_e_kat +, writes (11 July 2007):
 You have to think about what you want, put his feelings aside. What's important to you? you have been in this relationship along time, do you love him? maybe a break is appropriate. Weigh up the prose and cons of your relationship. From what you have written, a relationship with family and friends is important to you and he doesn't seem to share that. You're right though you are young and you should experience the fun of youth while you can. In the end it all comes down to what you want, it shows you care about his feelings getting hurt by asking this question, but it's not selfish to get on with your own life, take charge and you'll make the right descision.
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reader, brainache +, writes (11 July 2007):
Your far too young to be tying yourself down,especially with someone your having doubts about,those will never change or go away.live your life and enjoy yourself to the full,as long as you are careful and safe be free and light before relationships and kids etc.
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reader, love-him +, writes (11 July 2007):
 Hi babe, you have already made your mind up, you arnt so sure about this relationship so you want a break. I suggest you take this break and then see how you feel, it will then be easier for you both to just be friends. I suggest you arnt with him for a while, yes you are young and stil need to live your life to the full. A break would be good. I hope i helped & good luck. Mail me if you would like to talk x x
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