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writes:i am 19 years old and i have been with my boyfriend for just over a year now. i know i love him sooo much but whenever i meet a new guy, or talk to any other guys, i feel like cheating.i never have cheated before and i dont think i ever will but is there some thing wrong with me, for thinking this? i dont want to lose my boyfriend. Because he means so much to me.But i feel confused and unsure about us i really need help what should i do PLZZZZ HELP Reply to this Question
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (2 April 2011):
 If you're not crossing any boundaries, its not cheating. Having a boyfriend doesnt mean shutting yourself away from the world.
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reader, llifton  +, writes (2 April 2011):
 you're young. that's pretty normal. it's confusing because you're at an age where you're mature enough and old enough to feel and experience real love, yet not quite old enough to have made enough mistakes and had enough life experience to be able to handle those emotions properly.do i think it's okay to flirt and talk with other guys you find attractive while you're still in a relationship? to some extent, sure. you're only human and it's natural. but that's exactly where the line needs to be drawn. nothing further than innocent flirtation and fun. but when you start to feel the desire to take that fun flirtation beyond anything more than just that, you've got yourself a big problem. my advice is simply this: from someone who's cheated and hurt people before, and from someone who's also been cheated on, as well...just make up your mind first what you really want, and be true to that. either decide to stay with him and be faithful and not entertain these ideas, or break up with him and be single and experience what that has to offer. but don't have your cake and eat it too. you not only hurt everyone else, but ulltimately yourself in the long run. if you love your boyfriend like you say, then don't hurt him like that. how would you feel if he were sleeping with another girl behind your back? but honestly, it sounds to me like you two should break up. because usually when you love someone, you don't feel the desire to just hook up with random people for fun. best of luck.
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reader, honestman  +, writes (2 April 2011):
Hiwell, this is a male opinion. I think you should talk to them. Just keep a healthy distance. Also, try asking your boyfriend about what he thinks of you talking friendly to other guys. I really don't think there needs to be a problem, and I don't think it's cheating. I think that if you kiss , or have sex with any of those guys, well, that's technically cheating.
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