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*slesfan1226
writes:Ok- i was dating my ex for 2 years and i ended things about 9 months ago. Since then he's been contacting me and trying to get back with me. and we've actually hung out a few time and had a really fun time. And he is usually saying things like i can make you happy and i love you. And i wont lie-i love him too. Well now we've spoken only a few times over the past few weeks, as i understand he's trying to move on... but after 9 months of seeing that nothing else is out there and realizing how great my ex is and still is and how he'll do anything for me, i want him back. The problem- he's hangng out with someone else- not as a girlfriend (i don't think), but just casually dating. Now i texted him to tell him i wanted to talk about us and he was very receptive to the idea and we're getting together in a few days. And not to sound cocky, but theres no chance in h*ll he'd ever pick this other girl over me... although i'm hoping it's not too late So, I just want to make sure that i get back with him for right reasons, because this guy is probably the greatest guy i've ever met and i regret SO much that i let him go, but i am NOT ever going to be okay with hurting him again.So i want to kind of see if it seems like i am being selfish JUST because he's seeing someone else now...and i'm at a particularly lonely time in my life.. or if i'm just realizing uh-oh i better stop wasting time now that hes started seeing other people.. i just don't want to end up regretting not giving it another shot or wondering what could have been
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reader, Abella +, writes (19 June 2011):
 Contact him, ask if you could please meet. Tell him you know the break up hurt him and you are sorry. Tell him you love him, and have felt lost without him.. Ask if he would consider trying again? I think he wants to hear these words.
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reader, islesfan1226 +, writes (19 June 2011):
islesfan1226 is verified as being by the original poster of the question*** Nothing happened, no cheating or anything, it was just the breakup itself that i know hurt him because he felt like it came out of nowhere
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reader, SMARTERthaniappear +, writes (19 June 2011):
 You said you really love him. If you TRUELY LOVE HIM than you're not being selfish and wouldn't be getting back with him just because you are lonely. He's tried to contact you so obviously he still has interest in you. If you don't give it another shot you could lose out on a GREAT RELATIONSHIP, and well as him. Love is a Gamble. Just got to try again and hope for the best.
I HOPE I HELPED ^.^
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reader, Abella +, writes (19 June 2011):
you mentioned that you are 'not OK with hurting him again' ?? So was it an event that happened, or the break up itself that hurt him?
You say you love him. He is the 'Greatest guy you've ever met' AND he's keen to get back too.
And neither of you have found anyone who's moved you to form a permanent relationship with anyone else since you broke up. Therefore I would suggest that there is a Very Strong possibility that the two of you share a very big torch for each other. The chances are that the two of you are a Meant to Be True Love Match.
It does not sound like a mistke. It sounds like the Real Deal.
That is surely not a reason to stay apart a moment longer, in my humble opinion. Enjoy and re-connect.
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